Well, for the first time in a long time, my life seems to be heading down a road with fewer curves in it. For the past month and a half, my H and I have tried every way that we knew how to try to be there for the OW and OC (twins), but she flatly refused us at every turn. She wouldn't let us see them. She wouldn't take any money. She avoided phone calls. Her family helped her completely avoid us for a month. We followed every piece of advice that our lawyer gave us and even went beyond what was expected, but all we got was a door in our face. I understand that we could continue to fight this, and we would eventually gain visitation at the very least, but she has promised to fight us every step of the way and take us back to court constantly to keep the girls away from us. We absolutely cannot survive 18 years of that. My H and I are exhausted from the month and a half of it. She wanted to allow her parents to adopt the girls. We finally had to step back and give in. I think my H and I would be a good thing for the girls, but it would be overshadowed by the fact that we would have to spend so much time arguing with their mother. As someone who grew up with parents who were divorced and still fought, I know that would be very bad for them. We let them adopt the girls with the full knowledge that OW will continue to raise them. I finally feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Who knows if we made the right decision? No one could say right now, but at least a decision has been made. I know where my life is headed, and it is a good place. My H and I are going to start trying to have our own children now. I miscarried about 2 months before the affair began. We are settled in a wonderful new home, and we are happier together than we were before. Thank you all for the support and advice that you have given me through this tough time. I will forever be grateful. For those of you still in the middle of where I was, I will be praying that you find the peace that I have no matter the outcome.

Hello,
Sorry for all this mess.You were not even sure if the twins were your H or not? Right? Well, if her parents adopt them you won't have any say in the matter unless you protest. Why would she want her parents to adopt them? You don't have worry about CS. AT least you can move on with your lives. Good luck. And I am glad this are going good with your marriage.

Dawn

Congratulations, Breanna, on your recovery. It sounds like you and your husband have been issued a reprieve from on high and given you both a clean slate to rebuild your marriage. I am thrilled for you. But, I am sorry thigns didn't work out the way you wanted them to with the twin OC's, but perhaps God didn't think it was in your best interest or in theirs to have contact. I guess we will really never know these things for sure.

I would like to make one little suggestion and that is to compile a little diary with dates, times and events and exchanges you've had with OW because maybe someday these twins will look you two up and it would be good to have everything documented so they will know the effort the two of you put in to be a part of their lives.

Effort means a lot, and you and your husband have done your part and now God has given you two a chance at starting over without any incumberances. You are very, very lucky. I wish you well and God speed.

Catnip =^^=

I wish you well also and I pray that you would conceive twins of your very own!!! May God bless your recovery!!!