I spoke with BS a few days ago. They're doing great! Her baby was delivered by c-section, and it's her first delivery, so she's tired and sore, and soooo happy. I'm excited for them and also for my little guy. We did the baby talk, comparing stats, and then she started talking about xMM's new found parenting skills. Apparently he took to it like a duck to water. Ouch. I AM happy for them, but it looks like I also have triggers. It stung, but I glossed it over and focused on the excitement of the new baby. Nonetheless, she noticed. She was quick to point out that, had circumstances been different, and they were nearby, Jonas would have definitely experienced his father's love firsthand. It was sobering....present happiness/excitement, tempered by past transgressions. But, anyway, now there is Jimmy (dad), Jonas, and Jayla. I guess the J's have it. From what BS tells me, the 2 little J's favor each other a great deal. Damn! I've been boasting that I had the stronger genes. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Congrats on the baby sister! I'm new here and missed your story but it sounds similar to what I'm going through--could you rehash for the newcomer?

Hi, Mobe! In a nutshell: I'm the "OW". MM did not disclose marital status during our relationship. When I found out, I ended it. His W found out soon after and called me. Shortly after D-day, I discovered I was pregnant. It was trying time for all of us, but we made it through and have worked hard at making the best of the situation. BS and I have developed a positive relationship, with the premis of doing what is best for Jonas (OC) as the foundation. Jonas is xMM's first child. BS suffered many miscarriages, including one shortly after d-day. This past spring, she was pregnant again and thankfully made it to term. xMM and his wife are overjoyed at this new chapter in their life, and I am happy for them.

By the way, d-day was in February 2000...it's hard to believe it was 2 1/2 years ago. At that time, I never thought I would come as far as I have. I'm proud of me for making the best of a bad situation. It could have turned out pretty ugly.

Wow. Thats wonderful that she was finally able to have a baby! I bet she is thrilled! What does Jonas think or is he old enough yet to get it since they are far away?
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OB1,

I just wanted to say I respect the way you handle yourself and this situation. I can understand the triggers too. Good luck and keep being strong. You and BS are lucky that you both try to put Jonas needs first and took the high road. Hopefully they will send you a PIC to show him his sister.

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