Almost three months ago, my husband left me for a young woman he'd been having a "phone affair with" although I found out she traveled 400 miles to meet him. He lived with her for two months, even gave her an engagement ring. A month ago, he called me, begged me to come home and send him money to do so. He's been back about a month and since then he doesn't work, lies around "listening to self help tapes and meditating" and says he's finding himself, doesn't know how he feels about me or our marriage. He's says just let him "heal". What do I do? He doesn't contribute financially and doesn't commit to me or our marriage and cries and says leave him alone when I question where he/we are headed. I repeat, what do I do?