I just want to get everyone's opinion on some things. Okay here goes:

1. H said he hasn't heard from XOW and he really doesn't care. Evidently she isn't pursuing if she hasn't called. What does everyone think on this?

2. Thursday night, I went to sleep on the couch and H laid down with me later on (he stays up later than I do). In the middle of the night, he said "I love you, Dumpy." I don't know if he meant for me to hear this or not since he knew I was asleep. I did hear him though and said I loved him too. Since I'm trying to follow Plan A (at least what I understand), I don't say I love you to him very often and he doesn't hardly ever say it first. First, what should I think of this? I realize it is good but go to the second question. Second, why would he say it when I was asleep so I probably wouldn't hear him?

Believe me, I'm not trying to look too deeply into things right now since we're just sort of floating along right now. Just wanted to get everyone's opinion....thanks!

Well, first of all, my crystal ball is in the shop so I have no way of predicting or explaining anything. You are asking questions I doubt any of us could answer without knowing you and your hsuband personally.

Don't try to over analyze an "I love you" from your husband. Just take it at face value that he loves you and said so whether he knew you were consciencous or not. I have no way of knowing any underlying meaning there. And if you or your husband haven't heard from OW, maybe the mothership came for her and whisked her back to Pluto. Unfortunately, this is probably just a short reprieve because the OW's turn up again and again (usually looking for more money) so this current silence is temporary...or the lull before the storm.

Until your husband sends the no contact letter and sticks with it and starts applying the MB principles to your marriage, there will always be questions and feelings of insecury.

Good luck and God bless

Catnip =^^=

Thanks Catnip. I wasn't really expecting any sure answers to my questions; mainly they were questions running through my mind that I had to get out before I went crazy. Just really wanted someone's thoughts on it.

The XOW hasn't ever asked for money (at least, that I know of) and H hasn't ever sent her any.

On a good note, the necklace that was found and H had is now mine "to do with whatever I want". H told me last night that it was on the bathroom counter (which I had seen it - just didn't mention it) and I could do what I wanted with it. Hee, hee I haven't really decided yet what I'm going to do with it. I've thought of just throwing it in the trash where it belongs, but then I've also thought of taking a pair of very sharp scissors and cutting it into itty bitty pieces, lol, and then throwing it in the trash. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Have another update for everyone, but right now I have some work to do so I'll have to get back later.

Hi again! I figured out what I would do with the necklace! LOL, I had all kinds of thoughts - cutting it up, melting it down, throwing it out the window while driving down the interstate, etc. I decided to borrow a line from one of H's songs and went to a pawn shop, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Now I'm a little richer and the dang thing is gone for good. I had lots of fun shredding the ticket from the pawn shop though as a final ceremony. Mean, yes; vindictive, yes; do I feel better now that it's gone? YES, YES, YES!

By the way, H hasn't even asked where it went or what I did with it. I hope I can keep a straight face if he does ask me because I don't think he'll find it as funny as I do! I feel so relieved though - I'm almost giddy!

H went hunting last night for the first time this season (crossbow) and killed a 7 point buck. We had some good quality time together - even though it was standing side by side with blood all over us, lol. Eeewwwwww! I don't hunt (actually can't get near a deer itself because I'm allergic to their fur) and have never done any of this cutting up meat stuff. H has always done it himself, but last night he patiently (WOW!) showed me how to do it. All in all, it was another pretty good night. LOL, I shocked H when I walked up to him, tapped him on the shoulder and held a cigarette up to his mouth for him (without him asking) since he was up to his elbows in yucky stuff. Okay, I'm going to go now. Talk to ya'll later.

Dumplin,
Glad to hear that you are doing a little better.

I think I am right, but your H never took a paterinty test and your OW said that OC might be her BF. Maybe, that is why she has not asked for money. She does not know who the father is.

I would make sure your H does not give her any money until DNA proves he is the father.

Dawn