Hi everyone,
I know I haven't been posting much but I have been reading almost everyday. This past month has been very good for H and I. The first month of our seperation did not go well at all. I think we were both too proud to admit how much we missed what each other had to offer. This past month however we have been able to do something that we weren't able to do for the past 4 years. TALK to each other. Really talk and listen. We talked about things that should have been addressed a long time ago. We talked about things that were too painful to talk about. We talked about things that were important to one of us but not both. I have been waiting so long for him to open up to me so I could address all of his fears and his concerns and he finally has. He said he was very happy with the things that I had to say and was sorry that he hadn't opened up sooner. I think the distance did us good.

I am going to be moving back in at the end of the month. I haven't felt this hopeful about anything in a long time. I haven't felt this close to him in a long time. One of my biggest concerns was if he was sure he could handle having xOM in our lives for such a long time. He told me that as long as I could make him feel that he was the one I loved and wanted to be with then he could definately handle it. I know that is something I can do.

He loves "our" D so much and it is so evident. I don't know if I could do the same if I were in his shoes and that alone shows me the kind of man he is. The kind of man I guess I've always known he was.

He also has owned up to some of the things that he was neglecting in our marriage. Agreeing that while they didn't seem important or relevent to him that they were to me. We have promised each other that we will continue to comunicate as we have in this past month. We both have gained so much from it and it almost seems stupid that we didn't do this a long time ago. So much time has been wasted. Stubborn pride and such has robbed us of precious time.

I know all is right now. I feel it from him and I feel it in me. I haven't had this feeling for a very long time. Not since before the A.

Please everyone wish us luck. This is something that was truly meant to be. A journey that needed to be taken in order to find out what is REALLY important and special in life. We all have suffered. Me, my H and my kids. In the end I hope it will help us appreciate all the more what is in store for us.

Getting It Together...well, I guess you are!

I am thrilled for you and your bright future. as long as you work the MB principles, I bet your marriage will rebound.

This is just so wonderful...congratulations, GIT.

God bless, guide and comfort you both.

Hello,
I just wanted to say I am thrilled. Thanks for sharing.

Dawn

Good luck to you two! I agree with Catnip, keep working with the MB principles & I'm sure you'll be fine! I'll keep you in my prayers.

Vee