Dear Tim,
I am glad that you feel peace in your decision to go Plan B. We don't have many Plan B letters (or any?) posted on the pregnancy/child part of this forum, but if you look over at the PlanA/PlanB section or over at the General Questions section, I am sure you will find lots of them.
I would encourage you to stick to a real solid Plan B. You don't have any children together, right? If not, there is no reason for contact between the two of you. Plan B is to stop the leakage of love you may still have for your wife, to protect you from further harm and hurt and to give you wife a taste of what life without you might look like. Treat her as if you were divorced. No contact means no contact. Use letters or an intermediary and keep that to a bare minimum. If she comes back to you and wants to rework the marriage then you can begin. I might also suggest a book by Michelle Weiner-Davis called Divorce Busting. I haven't read it but it seems to be popular and to work well with Plan B from what I have seen on the General Questions board.
What you want to portray to your wife (I think) is a level of quiet sadness that the marriage is nearing its end, your willingness to reenter the marriage if she does a true 180, and that (without dating or involving other women yet) you are going to build a good, full life for yourself with or without her. Get active in your church, have a fulfilling (non-dating) social life. Join a photogrpahy club or whatever interests you. Don't spend too much time sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. You want to look as attractive to her as possible and nobody likes a clinging vine (well, not many people do and those that do could use some serious IC <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ).
I wish you Shalom, God's peace and wholeness.
MJ
