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Went to therapist this morning, was very nervous but got through it okay. I wish I could say it was the best thing but I left there feeling pretty much the same. I keep hearing "give it time" "time will make things better" I know that but what do you do when your just trying to make time go. I just feel so died inside and I wish time would hurry up. I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired. I know I'm rambling and not making much sense but it's hard to put in words what I really feel. I will continue on the road to recovery (meds, therapist) but I'm still so empty and sad, I want to be happy again. I just want to laugh and enjoy life. Thanks for listening
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It has been nearly two years since D day for me. I still have days of agony, of sadness, of hating what this whole affair and OC has done to me. I am now not sure my marriage will survive t his. My H is so different,a nd no longer the man I married. And the memories of what he has done to our life haunt me. I don't see how the clock will ease totally the pain, but I can tell you, at least I am functional-- I can work , and do a half assed job at all-and be with my kids, and be there for my kids. But I cannot be with my H-because he is not who I want to be with.
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lj1122
Was wondering how you are doing?
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Thank you for asking but I'm having a bad day! I just wrote my husband a long letter nothing bad just my thoughts and how I feel. Hoping him seeing the word will let him know the impact of his actions. I'm doing all the things I should and it has helped but I'm still numb. Time is what I need, husband loves me and he feels really bad but I can't get those stupid demons out of my head. I try to deal in the moment. How are you doing? I'm so glad I have some where to go and write my thoughts. So helpful!
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Hi LJ,
I am new this this sight, but I have to say the the only way those demons are going to go away is by the grace of God, and your husband ensuring that it will never happen again. By being there for you, and not ignoring your feelings. My pastor told me two weeks ago, that the amount of time that it took me to cause this problem, it will take 4-8 times that to heal my W's pain and agony. I am going to just persevere, and wait patiently. I am a changed man with conviction now, and I have to give her time to heal, and give her everything that she needs and desires.
Good Luck LJ
AmLo
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