Well yesterday I was reading SAA going over Emotional Questionaire I was begining to see my flaws big time.

Today I talk to H the conversation was going along fine,I asked H what were some of the behavior patterns of mine he dislike.

One thing led to another. The topic of travel came up, H told me he recently went away for the weekened. Now about three weeks ago, H went away for the weekend same destination.

H told me the first time he left town was to attend a show, the second time it was to see OW OC and OW husband.

H told me he stayed overnight in a hotel with OC and ow daughters. OW and H stayed somewhere else
man this angers me as I write. My thing is when H felt I wrong him, when I found out about H and OW. A. Because of my angry outburst, my H alienated his self from me and my family for 2yrs with no contact.

Now OW was cheating on my H.and 4 wks after they broke up she jumped up and married someone else and now H and OW are are best friends I'm not feeling this give me a break.

All I can think about is how I was abandon and treated because I told H what he didn't want to hear, but this TRAMP get trated liked a Queen for cheating and getting married.

This really bothers me, how he's at her beckon call all because he has OC. Me I'm going through madness here with no support and have to fend for my self.

I told H, I don't want to talk to him never again. H got upset and said he's getting off the phone. I told H this whole situation took all the selfesteem I had. I have none H ask me how did this situation take myself esteem what kind of question is that.

H won't even speak to a guy that was his best friend. Best friend wasn't very supportive in what H was doing to me so he's no longer friends with this guy, but H and OW are best friends after she cheated and married her lover.

This is ridiculous I now see H still loves OW I will not be used as a band aide until he goes through his feelings in other words I will not be his enabler.

I'm glad youa re angry, MALC. This might be the first step in making some changes. Anger is often a good catalyst for standing up for yourself and making the decision you just "ain't gonna take it anymore" and move on.

I have known people that have sluffed off people they supposedly loved and cared about because they would tell them the truth and things they didn't want to hear. People who do this are not genuine and extremely shallow. As long as you tell them what they want to hear and agree with them and go along with what they are doing, everything is OK and they will stay in your life, but one slip up and you're history. But, the price to have these people in your life is way, way too high. Just not worth it or worthy of you.

These people are so not worth the effort, MALC.

Catnip =^^=

I'm feeling you on that one Catnip. I'm one that don't bite my tongue. As I read, I find I'm doing a major LB that needs to stop. I can say what I need to say, I just need to use diplomacy.
thank you once again.