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I would like to contribute to the fund, happily. I think I will send it in my Ow's name-- instead of sending it to her, I would like to send it to someone truly needy and worthy.
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Y'all...I'm crying as I read this...but I don't feel right in accepting.
I wouldn't want to give "Bee" or any other OW's the chance to gloat about the misfortunes of BS's because of CS obligations etc.
I wouldn't want to give the self righteous here the chance to crow about being responsible about our bodies and if we can't afford them, don't have them....it never ceases to amaze me that sometimes God can overide even the most stubborn of birth control options....
I appreciate this ladies and gents, but why give the enemies opportunity to slander and gloat? I'm sure if it was a hapless OW in distress due to the BIG BAD MM and his BIG BAD B*tchy wife, there would a nice fund set up for them also.
If this is to be a permenant fund to help others in the future, count me in too when my situation becomes stable so I can help out too.
I have a paypal account. I would be a charged a fee of a certain percentage of the amount to withdraw the funds...and if you should continue to choose to send this to us. You can rest assured there would be photo-copied receipts to anyone who wants one. I believe in accountability and Lord willing, in the future, if we get back on our feet, I would like to return that money to the fund for next person who needs it.
It never ceases to amaze me that the welfare system is available for those single OW's who have a problem affording their OC's...but for the married folks...well that's a horse of a different color....Hell, we even have a marriage penalty tax...
I've said enough...you people are wonderful and I don't deserve good friends like y'all...
God bless you all, since I can't right now.
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Catnip,
I did contact MJ.. and she said that she is all for the idea of a fund but she is too entrenched in other things right now to be an intermdiary of the fund.
I 2nd the Vote for Heavenly... and for Gem!
How soon can we get this up and running... I have a planned contribution... and I am DYING to send it in!!!!
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Dear all,
Consider it done. I will finalize the PO box on Monday and send everyone the address.
Twiisty,
Don't ever worry about what people have to say. The old children's saying that "names can never hurt you" is absolutely true.
Every single one of us is in need of something throughout our lives. It is not for anyone to pass judgment on your life or anyone else's life.
It warms my heart to know that there are still such wonderful people in the world willing to help others. If one day I should need help, it is good to know that God may provide people like those on the MB forum to help me out.
We are all pulling for you.
love,
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by unhappy wife:
<strong>I would like to contribute to the fund, happily. I think I will send it in my Ow's name-- instead of sending it to her, I would like to send it to someone truly needy and worthy.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Excellent, excellent idea...let's all do this (if you want to)...print on a card the OW's name under ours as if sent by proxy along with the $.
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Twiisty,
Many, many times I've heard (read) the ladies on this forum refer to each other as family. Hon, family is supposed to be there to give you a hand up when you're down.
I'm in.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by twiisty:
<strong>Y'all...I'm crying as I read this...but I don't feel right in accepting.
=^^= Dry your eyes and put your pride to bed. We all need help sometimes and it might not be loads and loads of $ but it might mean a bag of groceries or two hours of a plumber's time...just wait and see what God provides. We're only looking for some relief for you, Honey.
I wouldn't want to give "Bee" or any other OW's the chance to gloat about the misfortunes of BS's because of CS obligations etc.
=^^= I'm sure if she spent some time thinking about it without bias she would see what is truly behind this and not be spiteful or gloat...and if not, so what?
I wouldn't want to give the self righteous here the chance to crow about being responsible about our bodies and if we can't afford them, don't have them....it never ceases to amaze me that sometimes God can overide even the most stubborn of birth control options....
=^^= Well, this is where they might get ME, not you, on my speeches about knowing how to protect our bodies. They will try to use you as an example without considering that any children born into YOUR life are legitimately sanctioned by your marriage....and any funds going to you won't be coming out of THEIR pockets like it comes out of our pockets for them. So, in this particular case, we volunteer to contribute for the greater good of one of ours.
If this is to be a permenant fund to help others in the future, count me in too when my situation becomes stable so I can help out too.
I'd like to see it continue because I know there have been many situations where someone has been in need due to financial disasters, being left high and dry and then there are joyous occasions when MJ adopted her boys from Russia and Happy Girl's baby and Babstr's baby and other instances. It would be fun to gather a little coin and send something.
I have a paypal account.
=^^= we don't want to do paypal...or pay the fees...I like Heavenly in charge of it. I trust her implicitely and know she will handle it well.
I believe in accountability and Lord willing, in the future, if we get back on our feet, I would like to return that money to the fund for next person who needs it.
=^^= When things change for you, you can just contribute for someone else.
It never ceases to amaze me that the welfare system is available for those single OW's who have a problem affording their OC's...but for the married folks...well that's a horse of a different color
=^^= The unfairness and imbalance is horrific. To add insult to injury, none of us are allowed to claim OC as a tax deduction or itemize the CS as an expense on our taxes while OW gets all that $ tax free. It is pretty tough to swallow, for sure.
....Hell, we even have a marriage penalty tax...
=^^- I think that is about to be abolished.
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Perhaps we should all communicate via private e-mails about the Fund once it gets moving...
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Stacia_Lee:
<strong>Catnip,
I did contact MJ.. and she said that she is all for the idea of a fund but she is too entrenched in other things right now to be an intermdiary of the fund.
=^^= OK...that's fine. I know she is really busy. I'd ask Jenny but she is overseas.
I 2nd the Vote for Heavenly... and for Gem!
=^^= I acknowledge your vote for Heavenly and 2nd your vote for Gem. She's a good choice. Gem? You willing to accept your nomination?
How soon can we get this up and running... I have a planned contribution... and I am DYING to send it in!!!!
=^^= Excellent! Heavenly will post the address of the PO Box Monday evening and you can send it in immediately on Monday night, if you wish. Heavenly will hold onto it for 7-10 days to give everyone enough time to mail something into the fund, record it and make the information available to any donor, and then send the funds onto the recipient on the 7th to 10th day. She will conntinue to collect and forward any residules that trickle in after the fund drive.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by ohbratti1:
<strong>Twiisty,
Many, many times I've heard (read) the ladies on this forum refer to each other as family. Hon, family is supposed to be there to give you a hand up when you're down.
I'm in.
OB1</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">=^^= That's because you are part of our family, too, Ohbratti...and we love you. Thanks for being a part of this. It means more than you know.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Nerlycrzy:
[QB]. However, JMHO, I think a PO box would be better for this.
=^^= I agree with you completely. I don't like the idea of fees or interest or anything that takes a penny away from the recipient.
If a post office box was available for donations, the senders could send cash (to maintain their anonymity, with perhaps only their MB name if they wished), checks or money orders.
=^^= I have sent cash in the mail many, many times without any problem whatsoever, but I put it in a card or wrap it in paper and in a security envelope with a return address. As for checks or money orders, a contributor could send a check or money order with the amount, date and signature written in and just let the recipient fill in her own name on the payee line. Every contributor should put their MB name on a card within the envelope for record keeping. However, if you send a check or money order, Heavenly and the recipient will know your identity. If that is no big deal, we are good to go.
And, minus the cost of the PO box, all the money would go to her.
=^^= Absolutely. Heavenly must reimburse herself first for the PO Box with the rest going to the recipient.
Good points, thanks Nerlycrzy!
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by heavenlybody26:
<strong>Dear all,
Consider it done. I will finalize the PO box on Monday and send everyone the address.
YYYAAAAYYYYY!!!! We will be waiting with baited breath for your new thread with the mailing information.
Heavenly, I want to take a moment to thank you for taking on this position as treasurer. I hope it won't get too crazy or time consuming for you. If it does, please let me know and we will send out the troops.
You are wonderful.
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Gosh, Twiisty. You should be ashamed of yourself. What were you thinking, having a child within the bonds of marriage? That being Mr. Twiisty's wife actually entitled you to the privelege of having his children? That you had the right to go ahead and enjoy the wonders of pregnancy and the joy of sharing in the creation of life with a person who is your legal spouse? That despite the financial pressures incurred upon your family by the confiscatory child support system, you still had the ability to live your own life to the fullest? That being born into a secure two-parent family unit is more important than any amount of material goods ever could be? The sheer unabashed nerve of you!
Twiisty, you really should have thought this through a little more. After all, had you gone out and found yourself a nice MM to get knocked up by, your financial worries would be over. Next time, please consult with the wonderful women on the other board who are genuinely concerned about righteousness and dignity, and who obviously have the best interest of their children in mind and who bring them forth into a perfect situation. If women who have children with married men aren't the experts on what is and what is not an appropriate time to become a mother, then gosh darn it, I don't know who is.
Anyway, Twiisty, seems an appropriate season to remind the would-be critics of the lesson learned by George Bailey on "It's a Wonderful Life". Remember, "no man is poor who has friends." You certainly have friends here. (But then again, I seem to recall that George Bailey had four children despite having a low-paying but honest job and seemed to believe that integrity was more important than wealth. The filthy bugger.)
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I love you ladies....CD, thanks for the laugh of the day....and OB1 and all, thank you from the bottom of my heart....
I feel better today. Mr."T" has a four day weekend and he came home enough to take the kids and me to "celebration in the Oaks"....at the park...there is a giant lighted display and you can drive through it or walk through it...we drove through it...all the lights were beautiful and the looks on Mini-me's and Bubba's faces were what made it all worth it.
Mr."T" sat down with the kids and told them that what he did was wrong and Mini-Me sent him to stand in the corner. He made it right.
We will get through this. Thanks y'all...
Hugs,
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Twiisty,
I am happy to hear that you sound to be in much better spirits.
Sounds like you had a wonderful family outing.
Good for Mini-me setting Mr. T straight.
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CD, that was GREAT!!
Twiisty-the corner!-LOL! Wonder what my kids could cook up for Daddy...
Looking forward to the address...
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OH! I stay away for 3 days and read you guys were calling me and I didn't know it!
I'm ready to send funds to the address when we find it out.
I think you have taken care of that Heavenly, right?
Catnip honey, I'm sorry I didn't read this sooner. I kind of read through this fast, but bottom line is regardless of who is in charge, I think it's a fabulous idea!
Twiisty girl! We love ya!
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Gem
We also need a co-chair to communicate with Heavenly and to help her if she needs it and someone to record contributions. Stacia nominated you for the job. I am sure the "job" won't be more than a few minutes a month for either of you unless it takes on a kind of perverse life of its own...hahaha...which can happen, however,
Do you accept your nomination for co-chair with Heavenly?
Catnip =^^=
cdcollins...great tongue-in-cheek...how true...
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Catnip I will do it just let me know details of how you want it done.
By e-mail between HeavenlyBody and me?
I still haven't read this thread all the way through.....
love
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Hi, I am have been gone from this site a very long time and today I decided to peek in to see how you guys are doing and what do I find? I find my girls still doing wonderful, wonderful things. One day I will have to post my very long update but for now I am in...just waiting for the address heavenly.
Blessings,
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Leelee...
So good to hear from you! You have quite a story to share with the others and hope you will post soon for the update.
For those of you who need your memory refreshed, Leelee is the one who burned candles for each one of us at the Cathedral on a regular basis and would scurry over to Church and burn a candle whenever she read someone here was in trouble...always praying for us and always thinking of others.
It makes sense you would show up on this thread....
Love to you, Leelee
Catnip =^^=
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