I've posted before about MIL driving me insane and here it goes again. She assumes that H and I (especially H) will drop everything to do things for her or be with her. She is not married but lives with BF and her sister.
She called on Wed. to ask if H could come over and work on her house (she's building a room in the basement to eventually rent out). I shouldn't be annoyed but she always asks him do something to her house and it irritates me if I want to spend time with H and he goes over there instead. Plus she asks so that it's hard for H to say no. I kind of rolled my eyes when he asked me if we were busy-which I shouldn't have done.
I would like him to tell her that he'll check our schedule and he'll get back to her, instead of putting me on the spot to remember our calendar.
Then she dropped another "time demand" - she got an email about a 12 day tour to Turkey and other Baltic States for $1,000, all expenses paid, and by BUS! I have several reasons I don't want to go:
1) I only get 2 weeks vacation a year and I don't want to spend it ALL with her!
2) She already asked us to do a 2 week cruise next year (I don't want to go for same reason as #1)
3) 12 weeks on a bus...with MIL... enough said! (and I can only imagine the types of places we'll be staying for $1,000 (includes air fares, hotel, and the bus)).
I can tell H is interested and he can go without me but he also get 2 weeks/year so any travel plans we have will NOT happen. I also have this "crazy" idea to go to Germany for a week that hasn't happend in our 9 years together. I used to live there. I want to go back with him. Other things keep popping up that keep us from going-including her vacation requests. I'd like to plan a trip but it keeps getting pushed for other reasons. When I mentioned it to her, she got pissy and said "well, I don't see you making travel plans anytime soon". It's true but how can I plan when she keeps making demands?
When H and I started seriously thinking about it last year, he wanted to invite MIL since she's never been! I wanted to throw something at him. We haven't been on vacation without friends or family since our honeymoon 7 years ago!! I don't want anyone else to go. I want to show him where I lived without anyone else in the way and without other people's agendas.
MIL never stops with the time demands. She comes up with vacation ideas all the time. She wants "everyone" to go. We can all have "fun". My idea of fun is not hers and spending time with her can be fun but sometimes it turns obnoxious-she and her BF BICKER all the time (including her comments about his lack of sexual performance, or his lack of sexual attention to her, etc. and I'm SERIOUS!) She can sometimes make me and H uncomfortable (like when she's hitting on his friends in front of her BF). My favorite example is several years ago we all went on vacation to visit her BF's family - a very nice, happy, Christian family. We played a game and she got aggravated at BF about his overexburance at Yahtzee and announced to his whole family, which included pre-teen/teenagers (and us), that BF would not be "getting any" from her because he was annoying her. The entire room stopped talking and I wanted to hide under a rock! I could go on-there are more stories just like this!
