My wife and I have been married for 5 years, together for almost 9. We have had what I thought was an amazing life together. We are not rich but not poor. We simply had so much love that it was incredible to me. Where the problems began were about 2 1/2 years ago and I was too stupid to realize it. I went thru 2 job losses and my self esteem went out the door. During that time there were times when she asked me to go to counciling as I shut many people out and was not a very happy person. I never went. I guess being a male and thinking I could solve things myself. Well, a little more than a month ago she told me that she has been unhappy for all that time. I really had no clue. Of course the realization of things hits like a ton of bricks now. I have come to realize that there were things she asked of me and I asked of her that neither of us did. We did not truly communicate the way we should have. She says now that she is done and does not love me any longer. I love this woman more than I ever thought possible. I started to see a counselor and she has gone once. I want so bad for us to work on this and get things right again but she does not seem to see where we both messed up. I am her 3rd husband, which bothered me a bit at first but it never did during our marriage. We have just had such an incredible love, at least I thought, that I find it so difficult to believe she just wants to throw it away. I want us to go to counseling together and work thru this but I know it taked 2 and you can't MAKE someone love you. But do we not owe it to one another to make something that was so powerful strong again? I feel like I am just running in circles trying to work at this and getting nothing from her. I want help so bad it's killing me.

david~

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