Jill,
I was wondering are you and your H seperated? I am to thinking about filing for CS. Just wonder if you have to be legally seperated to get CS?
I have the same question of how much CS my H can give me? If they say 28% can he volunteer more?

Dawn

SAME BOAT TOO- THIS IS MY ADVICE
I have not given up on my marriage completely yet but I DID file for divorce back in Nov. The reasons are I realized that WHO ever gets in the legal system first, gets the most money per month. Now, I'm not a money hungry person but I have to do what is best for my DS and to hell with the OW and the OC. She is at fault for getting pregnant in the first place to try to get H to be with her. I feel the OC IS entitled to support but why should it be more that what MY son gets when HE was born inside of marriage? I will NEVER understand WHY the legal system doesn't take into consideration children that are born IN a marriage first!!! Shouldn't we TRY to protect and encourage marriages FIRST, not EMA. Don't you think children born to a married couple are just as important if not MORE so than a child conceived in a dirty warehouse bathroom!!! I'm a little bitter this morning, sorry! I'm also divorcing him because he has ruined himself financially and I refuse to let him take me with him down that road. So for me the divorce was the best option and hopefully we can rebuild a relationship afterwards. Sorry if I *****ed too much.

>Don't you think children born to a married couple are just as important if not MORE so than a child conceived in a dirty warehouse bathroom!!!

(Yeah, I know there's a good chance I'll probably regret this.)

You had me up to the "MORE" part. If we're talking about the value of children here ... CHILDREN ... how about EQUAL. NONE of them asked for this, just as NONE of them had anything to do with where/why/how they were conceived. ALL of them are innocent, ALL of them have the potential to become good members of society (define as you will), and ALL of them have value as children.

chudP

<small>[ January 15, 2003, 10:36 AM: Message edited by: friendofk ]</small>

I did not mean to imply that ALL children are not deserving of LOVE, a happy, healthy life and hopefully a Mom and Dad in their lives. I'm sorry if it came across that way. I have no doubt the that OW loves her child just as much as I love my DS but the legal system disregards children in a marriage if the couple stays together. Why is it that the OC is treated differently than a child that is conceived in marriage. All I'm trying to say is that if maybe we SUPPORTED marriages and treated them as the priority over EMA in general then maybe society will start to condone EMA instead of looking the other way and accepting them as the norm. Does that make more sense. If CS has to be issued it should be to ALL children produce by the person weather IN the marriage or not. I just think in a whole that if we respected marriage MORE in this country in general and held more severe consequences then maybe people would either try harder at marriages or think more before getting married in the first place. I didn't mean to offend anyone. But if ALL children are suppose to be equal then why am I entitled to a set CS amount for my DS if I stay with his father? I LOVE children and I have no doubt that if this was a step-child VS the OC I would love her forever. But at least for now I can't imagine even seeing her, it would be too painful for me.

Hello everyone,

Yes i'm finally better but I did file for cs, first off I really don't know where my marriage is going to wind up.But either way I'm not going to sit around and wait for ow to file I don't feel like spending alot of time in courts, and in six months there nothing left to save I'm already ahead of the game!!!!!

Jill