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My OC is due in two weeks. My WW and I moved to another country thousands of miles away from OM. My entire family knows everything and are trying very hard to accept it. My father even referred to the child as his grandchild the other day which naturally made me cry. On her side, only her mom, dad, and brother know the truth about the paternity of the child. It has been quite a ride to reach this point. OM is basically out of the picture. He has removed himself from the situation and allowed me to take full responsibility as the father. He sent his final email to us recently informing us that he has thrown away all of our addresses and phone numbers and does not want to receive any news of the child. He knows that this will only incur more pain on himself, our marriage and the child. Sounds perfect doesn't it? However, I still am confused. When I learned of the pregnancy I felt very strongly that I would be the father of this child. However, due to my insecure and rational mind I kept wavering on wether to register the child as my own and worry about possible adoption options later. Should I register OC as my own and let God's Will be done? OM wants out completely so should we keep the truth from the child forever? I know these are questions for the future but I don't want to hurt my child in the future with upsetting news. I guess one problem has been tackled and the mind looks for others to keep busy.
<small>[ December 30, 2002, 09:37 PM: Message edited by: tofu ]</small>
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">However, due to my insecure and rational mind I kept wavering on wether to register the child as my own and worry about possible adoption options later. Should I register OC as my own and let God's Will be done? OM wants out completely so should we keep the truth from the child forever? I know these are questions for the future but I don't want to hurt my child in the future with upsetting news. I guess one problem has been tackled and the mind looks for others to keep busy.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Consult an attorney and a child psychologist.
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