Mobe: I didn't know you live in FL. That's where we live. The cs laws DO NOT take into account the chilren living at home. If you go to the department of revenue site there is a worksheet which calculates the cs. The amount is 'shared' with the non-custodial parent (the H) being the most responsible. They take ow's salary (if any) and H's salary and then figure out the cost. H is also responsible for 75% of the day care cost (go figure out why that is not 50/50) and also the entire cost of the health insurance. (not even 50/50 but 100%) Our attorneys have also said that in order to consider the kids at home I would have to do as cd suggests and file for child support (with separation or divorce) however the first child support order entered always gets the most money.
For the court to take into consideration our kids then my salary would have to be considered into the entire mix.

Check out the fl department of revenue child support guidelines.

Take care!!!
Angelia

Mobe: One more thing I saw on your other posting....You made a comment about your H not wanting anything to do with oc and you hear that could higher your cs payments.....

Our attorney told us that if the department of revenue takes the child support payments then they do not care if you have anything to do with the oc or not. That is not their concern.

However, if you are being taken for child support by the department of children & family services then they DO care. That is the department that rations out the time you spend with the child as to the degree of child support. Like if you never see kid you get more than normal child support..If you are active in its life then that amount is lessened.

HOpe that is helpful - I realize I'm not a lawyer or anywhere near CD's level - just relaying what our attorneys are telling us and we're right in the midst of this process!!!

Good luck to you!

Angelia

Good God this is so UNFAIR!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> We are doing the cs in the court system and private attorneys so it isn't through welfare--my H and the OW both work. 75% of daycare!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
I still want my H to participate in his OCs life--it would be nice if the courts recognized our attempts to co-parent the child--maybe they will.

Honestly I'm tempted to divorce my H anyway the whole thing has been such a shock and so sickening--THEN my kids would get factored into it all.

Thanks Angelica

Mobe: How long has this been going on for you? I seem to remember you answering one of my very first postings and I somehow got the impression you were one of the great survivors of this whole ow/oc thing.

I hear ya on the divorce thing. I too am shocked and sick at what my H has done. I just hate it.

We're no where near where some of these other people are in terms of recovery.

I hope for you that your private attorneys can help with the cs thing. the 75% of day care is based on what the department of revenue deems is fair.

Our ow works too but at this point we have no idea how much $$ she makes. The more she makes the better we are. But even at that, he still will get socked for the 75% day care and all the health insurance. On top of that because she was on welfare at the time of delivery, they will make him pay all the hospital costs for the delivery, etc. He is also supposed to pay 100% of unreimbursed medical bills over and above what insurance pays.

I truly sat with my jaw dropped when the attorney was going through the whole list of stuff. AMAZING! I actually got in the care and told my H that it was the most expensive piece of P***y that he ever had! Probably not a very LB'ing thing to say but at the time I didn't care!

I pray for all of us here on this board. It is unfair. I am praying that God will somehow make lemonade out of these lemons I've been handed. I just don't see it right now.

Take care,

Angelia

100% unremibursed medical <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

It's been almost exactly 1 year since D day

We've had a second honeymoon <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> I got pregnant on my birthday and am due soon <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

He is SO repentant, it helps, but it doesn't erase the pain

My stepmom thinks I was nuts to get pregnant just two months after DDay especially with the OW pregnant too--sometimes I panic, maybe a second child wasn't the best idea

Anyway, we still have a long way to go