Let me start at the begining, I am 27 years-old and my husband is 28. We have 2 girls aged 5 & 10 (the 5 year-old is his step-daughter). My husband is of Haitian decent, in which, from what I can gather is pretty tolerant of extramarrital affairs. His mother and has have even discussed it, and as she put it, all men cheat. My mother in law has tolerated her husbands infidelity, even after it produced children with his first wife! We have been married for two years now and he has told me that he didn't expect marraige to constrict his freedom. He saw his father come and go as he pleased with no regard for his mothers feelings, and expected me not to have a problem with it. I do, and that is the problem, I don't know how to explain to him that dispite his culture and his parents, no woman likes to be walked over and her feelings disregarded. Just because his mother tolerated his father's callousness, doesn't mean that he should expect all women to do the same. <p>To this date he has been faithful (He indulges in pornography because he says it keeps him from his overwhelming desire of other women) he has been making an effort to be more considerate to my feelings, but I feel that we have hit a brick wall. He lies about the pornography and that really hurts and infuriates me, I think he lies just to get me off his back. I'm afraid that it all boils down to his unwillingness to give up the distructive habits that he has learnt from his parents and that it is taking it's toll on our marraige. He thought that he could have his cake and eat it too, act like a bachelor and still be married at the same time. Now that he realizes that that is not the case he is miserable, and so am I.