Well I'll finally get to see the person who has brought so much destruction into my life. Please pray that God gives me the wisdom strength and discernment as I want nothing more then a peaceful resolution here. I wish I cld sy the same for the OW. Thank you all for being here.

Good luck and Prayers being sent your way!

Tigger

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by robbed:
<strong>Well I'll finally get to see the person who has brought so much destruction into my life. Please pray that God gives me the wisdom strength and discernment as I want nothing more then a peaceful resolution here. I wish I cld sy the same for the OW. Thank you all for being here.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Good Luck and you are in my prayers.

Robbed I hear you but haven't had time to answer a lot.
Prayers and love to you.

I've been where you are. Update us honey.....
love
Debi

Robbed,
I said a prayer for you earlier. How did court go?

Dawn

Well child support order is not in place yet as paternity as not been established. But I have to say I feel like a TON of bricks have been lifted off of my shoulders. Seeing this woman for the 1st time was a relief and a revelation I must admit. I can't believe that I actually felt sorry for the woman who has assisted in stripping my family. I wanted to talk with her so bad but I know she's not woman enough to talk to me. I honestly felt that I could forgive her and I know I can accept this child. My friends always tell me that I have a big heart. She didn't say one word to me or H and did everything in her power not to look me in the face. When court was over she almost broke he neck getting out of there. I couldn't help but wonder what was actually going through her mind as she listened to the instructor talk about doing whats best for the child by letting go of differences. But most importantly I felt like I could walk away from my marriage and move on in a heart beat if H is willing to throw it all away over who saw yesterday.

I also want to Thank you all for your love and prayers I'm sure they made a difference. Thank you so much for being here.

Dee

good luck because I too will be going through something like that and I am going to need the strength of God to make it as well!

Butterfli I can't believe how much better I feel about this whole situation. Don't get me wrong its still very painful. But I'm willing to accept losing my H and I'm willing to work on my marriage and accept this child. A a week ago I couldn't say that. Deep down inside the thought of ending my marriage and starting all over again was sickening and unbarable. Well that thought does not hurt as much anymore. I blamed my self. I kept asking myself what did I do wrong. I kept telling myself that I'm not a good woman mother or wife. Well my eyes came wide open on that day. I realized just how beautiful I am as a person, a mother, a wife and a woman and if H does not appreciate that someone else will. God has truly been working on me I have to give him the Praise and Glory. Thank you for including me in your prayers. Prayer really works.

I must say I commend your H for sticking to his word thus far after his 1st mistake. That's more then I can say for mine. I know H is in phone contact with OW and come Feb she'll be back at work with him. My H has not made an honest effort here. I beleive his contact with OW is sending a message that the affair is still on and he's telling me there's nothing going on. I keep telling him that he needs to leave her alone and let her heal and get on with her life. I told him that he not only took advantage of me but her as well (even though she went into this with her eyes wide open) Its time or him to take rsponsibility and step up to the plate and handle this matter like and adult. Seems like you H has taken a stance. So I suggest that you continue to work with your H on this and know that it could be a lot worse then it is.

I pray that you and your family find love peace and happiness.

Dee

Dee,
Glad to hear court went well!

Dawn