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H got served with letter to go to court and get the legal aspects rolling with the OC. Need to know what to expect and advise and what we will need to prepare. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
Also I have giving my support to some of you however, no response about my situation. See HELP and cheated!
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I have no knowledge I can share with you regarding court. We didn't have to deal with any of that stuff we pay cs on our own. There are a few people here that have gone through what your about to sit tight they will respond. Sometimes it is a little slow around here. Stay strong!!
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What happens in court depends a lot on what state you live in and therefore what the laws are there. Generally, you can expect your H to be asked whether or not he admits paternity of OC. If he does, they will go on to issues like child support and whether he wants visitation. If he doesn't admit paternity, they will probably order blood tests for him and OC. If OW is on public assistance, she will have the DA's office or some similar county attorney's office representing her in court. Your H may want to talk to an attorney if he's going to want them to prove paternity, or if he wants visitation and OW will fight it, or if he wants to argue the child support issue - usually they order that according to what he earns and how much public assistance OW gets, and what they say their bills are.
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Thank you not sure what type of assistance other OW has. We are searching for atty. H has not taken paternity test yet but, would like to. Had been giving her money however, do have some of the receipts but, not all. Thanx for the info.
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Hello,
I would not let your H give her any more money until paternity has been proven. All, he has to is deny that he is the father and they will make him get DNA testing done. However, giving OW money may look like he is admitting he is the father.
Then they will set a time for him to get dna testing done. I believe that is how it usually goes.
How have you been?
Dawn
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bf,
Like the others, I'd advise your H not settle anything until DNA results are back--never assume! While waiting for that, you/he can research the ch-support laws for your state, and visitation if that is one of the issues before you. Every state is so very different. My H's "court" date was done by phone due to being long distance, but the ch-support is still legally binding.
It's important for you and H to present a united front, esp. to XOW and in public. Try to follow the MB Principles, esp. policy of joint agreement and honesty.
Good luck and God be with you,
J
in recovery 4.5y and glad I stayed
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Thank you for the advice. Will post after the appt with update.
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