H and OW was back in court today. I know some harsh words have been exchanged but I still can't help but question why the OW is so angry with me. Heck I married my H dam near 18 years ago and she knew good and well that he was married with 2 daughters. Its not my fault that she had a baby and H & I made the decision to work on our marriage regardless of her irrational decision. But I had to deal with her rolling her eyes at me in court. Boy was she shocked when H told the judge that he wanted a paternity test done. As a result she had to try to get something started. As H & I waited quietly for her and a friend to walk up some stairs so we could exit she had to ask if there was a problem. And you know I just couldn't help but tell her yes the problem was that she was man hungry. Shortly after I wante to kick myself because what I should have told her was Yes there is a problem and I'm going to pray for you. In response she said "thats alright I'll get the last laugh." How pitiful! She actually believes that her getting child support is getting the last laugh. Little does she know I believe in my heart and soul that if that is in fact H child she deserves the child support. I just think its so sad that this OW has so much anger towards me when I'm a victim in all of this. Why do people refuse to take responsibilty for their own actions?

Is there anyone out there who has a decent relationship with the OW/OM and if so can you please tell me how you went about establishing such a relationship? Do you think this woman can change her attitude over time or will have to look forward to nastyness forever?

I just need some advice on what I have to look forward to. Again I thank you all for being here.

I am very sorry to hear about your incident. However, OW is angry at me as well as if I did something to her. She knew he was married we have no children but, I have two and who h has help raise from 1 and 4 to 14 and 17 years of age. Pray as you stated because, God knows your heart and mine and so many others as I am now aware of. We are not the only ones in this type of situation. Just pray for strength and keep your faith she will pay for the sins she cause. She is miserable that is why she is lashing out at you. For some time of self satisfaction. Sad isn't it? She wants to be you, in your place so be proud of who you are and hold your head up with pride she is nothing and will never be nothing with that type of attitude. She is getting just what she deserves some money possible that you can't take with you to whereever she will be going. Good luck I just had to respond because, h and I will be going to court in about 3 weeks. I will need your support and encouragement to hold my peace if she shows up as well.

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I feel for you. Who knows why women act that way - and it is not only limited to OW. I know of 2 examples:

1. In 2000 I had to take my D's father to Court on Contempt charges. The case was filed but got delayed because the judge had cancer. Well 4 months later the case was heard. In a nutshell D's dad had 30 days to pay me his past due support or he would be incarcerated until such time as the obligation was met. Meanwhile he got married - after my case was filed, prior to court. His new W (whom I had never met) came to court and was very hostile towards me stating I was interfering in her M??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> I just wanted my money. She was actually removed from the court room.

2. We filed a Contempt Motion on my XMM's 11-year-old son's mother. We already have an iron clad visitation schedule in place. She came to her mother's house - where we were visiting w/ his son and ranted and raved at me like a nut case. HER mother invited me there. Again I was never her OW nor did he cheat on her while he was w/ her.

Who knows where all the anger stems from. Maybe in time you 3 can coparent, but don't count on it. I recently saw a Montel show where he actually helped a man get visiting rights w/ his child. A third pasty picks up/delivers the child so there is no contact between the parents. Good luck to you. tew