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I've read several of your posts. I know you're deeply wounded, but as you stated your faith in God, please try to hang on to that.
You've mentioned the child being bi-racial and the OW's race several times. Be extra cautious of this - don't begin hating an entire race by one person's actions. As a mother of two precious bi-racial children, it is this hatred by "believing, God-fearing, concerned" Christians that makes me cringe.
You do have every right to be angry and as a wife of a WH, I have picked the OW apart, as well.
But, please be careful. Your teenagers do not need to hear the racial comments, nor does this baby that God has created need more chaos in this world than he/she will already suffer.
Just some things to ponder. Hate hurts the hated, but kills the hater.
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Don't get me wrong I am not prejudice at all. Have good friends of other race and I do not judge them for these two hurting me. Just so angry as you mentioned. I am growing stronger every day with the presents of the Lord. I will accept this oc eventually but, I think if the OW was not so stupid I would not be as bitter you know. Now we have another problem among us h is in the reserves he is on standby to find out saturday if he will have to go and prepare to fight a war if we have one. Our court day was for this month. Possibly it will get postponed and I will have more time to not have to face the ow and oc so soon you know. Thank you for concern and words. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
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I totally can relate to your anger. One time, I posted on here "IF IT WAS MURDER, WE'D PUT THEM AWAY!!" And I felt like my spirit had been murdered with my H's affair. I can't possibly imagine what it would be like if a child had been conceived in the affair. I pray that you will experience God's peace. I don't understand His timetable, but His timing is always perfect.
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I agree. God knew how much I wanted my h to have a baby. Options were not good for us. h was in denial about wanting child because of his love for me. Now he has experienced something I could not give him. As selfish as it is that is reality. But, he wants me no matter what you know. He is fighting very hard for this marriage. So I have to remember to base everything now on what happens from here on out not what happened in the past. We both did some things in this marriage that we are not proud of. God spanked us for all those sins and is telling us you have another chance at this to get it right this time. We are going for it. If it doesn't work out we gave it our all this time around and what more can we ask for.
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