my H had several affairs ,during one of his disappearing acts with the ow, I slept with my former close friend(He does not know).This did not make me feel any better. A few months later after taking an sudden vacation he wanted a divorce. I was pregnant and he decided to leave with the ow that I found in my home. He kicked me out and I and my 2 year old son stayed with my family. We did not hear from him except in court for our separation. A year later still confused I let him back in to find out that he had a different w pregnant. Believing that he had changed he had nothing to do with the ow but we had already reconciled an my son was happy so I stayed with him. The last 8 years have been challenging because we had to relearn each other and I had to regain trust in him. That I still have problems with some times. He shows that he has change in so many ways that he actually put us first and loves to come home and you can see it in his eyes sometimes. My fear now is when do I tatally let down all my gaurds and know that it is okay to totally completly love.Also if I think back real hard that the day I messed up that one of my children may not be his and do I tell him? We have been married now 11 years and have 5 children.

Hello,
If you are practicing the principles on this site then I would say to tell him the child might not be his. There is a poster usedlongago you found out 20 some years later that his son was not biological his. His family is devastated and the relationship that his wife has with his sons are no longer the same.

Dawn