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I wanted to ask (and if you prefer to mail me offline I think you can through this site) what you put on your OC's birth certificate?
Going through all the options at the moment and this one is clearly a legal minefield - made worse by the fact that the OM does not live in this country...
Thanks
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Bowd,
Well, for us it was a no brainer, Sailorman is listed as the "father" of Abbi. xOM never even knew, as far as we know, about the pregnancy, and Sailorman and I had decided to raise her as our own. Sailorman adores her as much as our other children, and there is no lack of love for any of them! I'm not saying that it will be easy, but it can be done.
Hope I helped
Tigger
PS, unless there is already a DNA test(like from an amnio), I don't believe that OM can claim anything with this child. It is up to you and your W, but check just to be sure.
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Thank yo Tigger - it is a great help to know. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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You're Welcome, Bowd!
How is your W doing? Has she made any decisions re this whole situation yet? I know that it's hard to just wait till she decides, but we are all here for you if you need any help!
Tigger
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Not yet Tigger but we have talked about the options openly, honestly and warmly.
She's away working for 10 days and I think it is good as it will give her some space to think. I'm going to write her a letter stating what I feel and what I see as her and our options.
Thanks again - I'll keep you updated.
bowd
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