Hello All,

Thank you Frank for the inspiration post a few days back.

I have made the decision to move forward and recover my marraige and put my family back together again. After a year and half of separation we will moving back together in a few weeks. We have rented a bigger house so that all will fit and will be working POJA on the logistics of moving etc.

The OC is now 4 weeks old. A very sweet baby. She melted my heart the other night holding her. I am praying that she melts it all the time like my daughter does. A good start.

The OM will be paying child support and will be visiting when he can. He lives out of state, but is planning on moving to be close to the baby. I have not figured out all my feeling on this and the inability for NC. All visits will be at grandma's house (W will drop of baby and return later to pick up), I do know it can not be at ours. Contact will consist of 2 calls a week to discuss only the baby. I will be in room but not on the phone. Any thoughts on this?

Anyway, I just wanted to ask for your prayers and I look forward to learning and sharing with you all in the future.

Scott

Scott,

I'm glad to hear you've decided to put your family together and rebuild your marriage. Recovery is a long hard process but, when it works, the rewards are so well worth it! And it CAN work! I honestly didn't give my marriage any hope for survival and here we are, 5 years after discovery and finding MarriageBuilders, still together. And glad we gave it that one last chance!

Scott, please be sure you and your W read everything on this site regarding relationships and marriage. And the suggested books. They have been so helpful for us. And if you aren't already going to counseling, consider it, please. I understand the Harley's phone counseling is great. I wasn't able to take advantage of it because our insurance didn't cover it but I did go to a local counselor familiar with Harley's principles.

And the baby? I have no doubt you're going to love her just as you love your other children. It's hard to cuddle an innocent sweet baby and not allow it in your heart.

The OM? The wonderful women and men on this forum that have been involved in custody and visitation issues can help you out on this. I don't have experience in this area. However reading this forum, I am constantly amazed at their knowledge, wisdom and strength. They will be here for you.

You DO have my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

sounds wonderful I am glad the baby is fine.
I would focus on your family now and not worry over other man, he says he will move closer, but I wouldnt bet he would, just wait and see. He might decide it is more trouble than he wants.
In the mean time enjoy your family and work on your selves.