Hello everybody, don,t know what happened to my original thread so started a new one, to recap, partner of 19yrs SUDDENLY left me 7th sept 2002, got the usual "want my space, don't know whats wrong with me, still love you but..." you know what i mean. then found out he was with ow who he'd had a breif affair with 2 yrs previous, said he did'nt leave me for her but he would see her for now!!!! this woman or should i say 24yr old tart (H 37yrs) has a bad reputation, has split two previous relationships up and as apparently been after my H since she was a teenager, she is also everything my H hates in women, e.g. she smokes, she's loud and offensive, she has tattoos, need i say more. Anyway, the story so far, she's 4mths pregnant to my H after telling him she could not have children, and they now live together in a house my H has bought. At first he was still phoning me and coming to our house quite often, but it has now got to the stage where i very rarely hear from him, and hardly ever see him, its as if i dont exist, he phones about finances and the house we've just sold but other than that he has totally detached himself from me. On the other hand, he says he wants us to stay friends and has offered to help me with my new house, he has regular contact with our 17yr old D and always asks her about me, everybody keeps telling me he is not happy and that he's just biding his time with ow because of the baby but im not sure i believe this. im in so much pain, please help.......we had a fantastic life and were soulmates, what went <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> wrong????? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

I am sorry for your pain, but pleased to hear you encourage a relationship with your husband and daughter. That is so important, even if you dont work things out.
I dont think you should write him out of your life yet, why dont you try just acting indeiffernt, and live your life, your husband wll see what he is losing and maybe just maybe wake up, who is to say he loves her or not, doesnt sound like much to me, but what do I know.
I think you should worry about you at the moment and make your self happy. dont ask any one about him and dont ask your daughter any thing, kep it seperate, no reason he should have funa nd think you will be there when he is done.

just my opinion. but he isnt thinking of you now, I think you need to.

Thanks for your reply, just waiting in hope.. i just heard that she phoned him at work to come home because she was'nt feeling well, he refused and said he was busy, saying " what do you want me to do 'pat your head, i'm not a doctor' sounds like hes fed up of her already, i know if it was me who was pregnant and did'nt feel well he'd have come home straight away...