IF you believe an A can be TRULY just about SEX than shouldn't it be easier to recover from? My now xUH STILL swears his love and fidelity to me but I just CAN'T let this go! He swears that it was nothing emotional with the OW(3), it had nothing to do with our M or with being unsatisfied sexually. The A was purely about his own self-esteem and sexual issues. He is doing many wonderful, nice things for me, going to counseling and wants to go to MC so we can start rebuilding a relationship together. I thought I still loved him on some level when I divorced him but now when I look at him it just makes me sick. I just don't feel 100% about being with him so I'm unsure about going to therapy. Will therapy do ANY good if I'm not 100% committed to rebuilding the relationship? Do any of you feel like your just stuck in self-pity mode and can't get out of it? I REALLY want to be a whole family again but can I do that when I KNOW I will NEVER love this man the same way again or as deeply as I did before the A. I have SO many different emotions that swing from one extreme to the next. My family HATES him so much, what kind of a life can I rebuild when we can't function like a normal married couple? Why do people do this to other people?

I believe therapy has helped me get this far. We still have a long bumpy road ahead of us but, I do feel some relief when I see how supportive he is about therapy something that he refused to do years ago. He is helping me to progress and get past this ordeal. God bless you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />