My 26 wedding anniversary is next Weds. It will be the first one since D-Day. I don't even feel like saying Happy Anniversary. It doesn't seem sacred to me any longer now that there has been an A and OC in the picture. Am I supposed to go through the day and celebrate something that now is not that special to me anymore. Not that it was ever such a big thing for me, but my husband always thought it was. I wonder what he will say this year? He hasn't even mentioned it yet? Perhaps he will just forget it this year. People say "how wonderful" you've been married 26 years, that is an oddity these days. I used to be proud of that, but now when they say it, all I think is "how wonderful......right,,,,,,after 25 years that's what I got, discovery of an A and OC in the picture. Any suggestions on how I get through the day. Do I tell my true feelings?

We celebrated our 10th Anniversary Monday. It also was my sons 18th birthday. We did our annual thing went out to dinner as a family. I got him a card and he bought me a card and a ring.

You are right I feel the same as you. However, I refuse, I repeat, I refuse to let anyone take away my joy. Now do not take this personal but, pick yourself up and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Do not let H and OW destroy your happiness.

Although I am at home recovering from a hysterectomy 3 week into recovery process I went out that day because, I needed to get out of the house. Also, because whether we make it or not I have got to get my feelings back on track you know and enjoy the moments now. I now have the H I should have had long ago. The one I had before the affair.

Pray, read, write, each and every day. You will make it through this triumph time but, the only one who can help you is the man above. God bless you!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Personally for me, the first year after D-day is always full of painful feelings and memories. I felt that the anniversary after D-Day was a sham and meant nothing to me. (Although Mr."T" tried after he bungled it up really bad with the anniversary plans...even our MC got on him for that!)

The Second Anniversary (when we hit the five year mark) was kind of better. Although he drove passed the place that OC was conceived at and it hit me the wrong way!

I hope your H is trying. It will be rough for a while, but it does get better.

I do agree that no one can rob your joy unless you allow them to. I'm just now learning that myself!

Hugs to you,
Twiisty