Hello, everyone! Today is the day OW is suppose to go to court for the paternity test. Now all we can do is wait to find out if she showed up and then wait on results.

My mind has taken on so many twists and turns lately. I am not sure if I can go on with this marriage. As other women have stated OW is trying to block my involvement.

From my understanding we are going about this in a united front. However, I do not trust her or him. I do not doubt he has seen this child again behind my back because, he knows she will never call and tell me.

I do not think he has went to her house but, she has come across the river to our hometown area. See she lives in Illinois and we live in Missouri.

My gut tells me he is lying about giving her some money also. I do not believe he is being 100% honest with me. Opinions please!!!!!!!!!

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I'm so sorry that I don't have anything else to offer but hugs right now! Hang in there, and let us know what happens with the court situation.

Tigger

Did she show up? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Do you have access to your family budget? Can you prove that money is missing? Do you have a way of checking phone records to prove that they are in communication? Could you afford to hire a private investigator?

You deserve to know the truth and if your gut instincts are warning you, something is probably wrong or you just need more reassurance from your spouse.

Before you snoop, would your spouse object to your snooping? In "Surviving An Affair," Dr.Harley recommends that the wayward spouse allow the betrayed spouse access to every crevice of their lives and snooping should be encouraged and allowed by the WS. The purpose of this is to reassure the BS of WS's radical honesty and trustworthiness.

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Thank you both for your replies. Have not heard yet if OW went to court yesterday. I would prefer not to hire a detective just would not want to spend money that I do not have for something like that.

I believe that if he is doing something behind my back it will come out very soon. I refuse to start with the snooping again. I will not stoop to that again. If he is not being honest and it is revealed he will lose me and that is all to it.

I am doing everything in the best interest of my kids and myself. He will have to leave if I see otherwise.

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Hi Butter
There's nothing wrong with snooping. It's better to know than not to know.Me I have the 411 on everyone.Ask H did she show up?Please don't give your power away to her.

OW called my husband today yelling and he cursed her out. She stated are you happy now I went to court. So now all we have to do is wait on the results.

I already feel that God has prepared me for the worst and the results will be positive. Not real sure how I will react to it though. After results we should get appt. to go back and work out payments if positive.

After that husband will pay attorney for visitation rights that is where the fun begins this is something she is trying to block she does not want me involved.

But, if child is his I will be involved and a part of raising this child with my husband as he wants same as him helping me raise my two teenagers.

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OW have no say so whether you are involved that's between you and H unless she wants NC. Other than that if H has visitation at your H you will be involved.

Don't go for visitation at ow house this will definitely be a set up.