We have been in court for a while. It could be months before a court makes all the orders permanent. They are so back loged. We have been in limited talks about settling.
I seriously think the xOW is smoking crack. I truely do. The proposal she sent is a joke. As of right now we have the child 3 days per week.
Week 1 Mon 5:00 p.m.-Thurs 5:00 p.m.
Week 2 Fri 12:00 p.m.-Monday 5:00 p.m.
Then the schedule starts over again to week 1. We really like the schedule.
Okay what she submitted to us. She submitted every other weekend Fri 6:00 p.m.- Sun 6:00 p.m. and every Wed. night from 5:00 p.m.-7:00 p.m. Are you done laughing yet?! It gets even better. Because of our large time share my H pays a limited amount of CS. He pays $305/month +$252/month in daycare. Before going to court we were giving her a flat $800/month and that was it. Of course she wants sole custody.
She is asking for the $800/month PLUS that we pay 63% of daycare and unreinbursed medical. She is living in a dream world. We are insulted that she would would even have the nerve to give this to us. What would be the point? We are only out $557 a month since we went to court and the occassional medical bills. We're saving $243 a month. Like were going to give that up!!!
I think she feels we should pay all this because we have a 2 imcome household and she only has her 1 income. Legally my income cannot be considered. About a month before we filed for joint custody with the courts she asked us to start paying her $1000 a month. When my H said no his daughter was no longer available as often. She also said "its not like you can't afford it with both your incomes". <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
The thing that pisses me off the second most is that she wants to change the transportation. Right now all the pick up drop off are done at daycare. We don't have to see the OW. On her proposed Sunday she wants to be able to come to OUR home and pick her up.
You know something the gloves have come off. Hubby and I have decided to go for it, 50% visitation and shared legal custody. We told our lawyer to draw up a counter offer. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Of course she will turn it down but we are prepared for the long haul and lots of $$$$$$ for legal bills. It will be worth it in the end. I'm mostly just venting.
We have a good lawyer but is there anything you suggest to put in the counter proposal? Those little details that could have saved you a lot of grief??
