We all live together, the house is big enough. They are my inlaws and consider me their son. Their daughter is the WS and it is still active. I have tried the plan A and now its Plan B. The probelm is how to tell the ILs.

They are very loving and trusting and strong in the marriage for life thing (good for them) they have beeen married for 60 some odd years.

I think telling them will create such a dissappointment in their daughter that, for my FIL at least, the depression could be fatal (while at 89 they are still invery good health) or at least shorten a life span by removing some of the will to continue.

Nonethe less, WS will not return to try to work it out, I've gotten an apartment, we are separating so I don't have to watch her continue her A, all the Plan B stuff.....

Telling them will happen, and probably soon,

How to do the explaining, Thoughts.....

DRS

<small>[ April 25, 2003, 10:25 AM: Message edited by: DesertReStart ]</small>

I am sorry your going through this, I can also see the love you have for your family. Your in laws if they live with you may already see what is going on.
I think since they are her parents you need to let her tell them or go together and just tell them you are seperating. They must know something is wrong since you moved out ?
Tina71 had the task of telling her parents and she did not wish to do so, but her husband had left and she felt she should be honest with them, Maybe she will offer some insight as to how and why she told and how that turned out. She felt great support from them, and i think it has helped her.

I dont have the answer but there must be others who have experienced this. They will come along soon. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I dont think details need be needed if you feel it will hurt the health of the parents, perhaps just a need for a break and work on some things is all that is needed.