Apparently with the birth of her new child with her husband, she's approached the subject of having the OC's last name changed from ours to theirs. She said she'd contacted an attorney and if Mr."T" doesn't object, then it should be relatively easy to do the name change.

I think she wants the name change and still have us pay the CS obligation but I'm not sure. I also wonder if she's not dipping her big toe in the water to see if we are open to adoption or open to visitation. Mr."T" is adament about No Contact and with the OC being nearly 4 now, feels that they should be a cohesive family unit without his interferance.

Any thoughts? Advice? Those who have experienced this? I know when I was a newbie two years ago, Broken_Wings's H's ex-ow actually had her husband adopt their OC. It gave me some sense of hope back then.

We are all for the name change as it was the biggest bone of contention that Mr."T" and ex-ow argued about before OC was born. He didn't want the child to have his last name. He wanted to adopt her out. At that time Ex-ow was not married, but we see that things are changing now and everyone moving on.

I'm not asking for the moral obligation of being involved as we have our reasons for no contact, but for those who have been in this similar situation, I would like to know how to proceed and would talking to our lawyer give us more insight? I do have one retained right now for taking wild bill to court to increase CS for dinobon and curly-top and it's not going smoothly....

Anyways...that's the latest with the Twiisted Residence here...along with Baby bean due to make an appearance any time now....almost half-way there....

Hugs and prayers to y'all....
Twiisty

Twiisty..long time, no hear! I hope you and Mr. T are doing well.

Question for you..how do YOU feel about it?

I know you are praying for the oc to be adopted by the new husband but if that doesn't happen are you okay with the name change anyway?

Maybe they still want/need the child support however maybe this is just the first step to your prayers being answered. (Fingers and toes crossed)

If you and Mr. T didn't want the oc to have your last name in the beginning and now xow wants to change it, seems like a no brainer to me.

Luv ya and miss ya!

A

I agree...Mr."T" is definately in favor of the name change. Regardless, we still have to pay unless her H wants to adopt in which we would offer to pay the expenses for the adoption. But time will tell. I think it's great that they want to be a family unit with the same name. I wanted dinobon and curly-top to have Mr."T"'s last name but "wild bill" wasn't involved in their lives nor was he agreeable to anything pertaining to name changes and adoptions. C'est la vie.

I was hoping to catch you online again, A, and will look for you. Sounds like you are doing better too!

Hugs,
Twiisty

I think it sounds like a win win situation for all parties, but especially that little one. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Twiisty how'd it go?
What, if any, decisions have you made w/Mr.T?

OW in our situation was asked to put oc's name as her married name "in the best interest of the child" and complied. Ow and H (her H) have 3 other kids.

Wishing for the best for both you and yours and ow/oc!

Let's hear it for "common" surnames within a family of c's! Makes everyone feel as if they "belong".

love
Debi