It has been a long time since I posted. To refresh memory, H had "short" A with OW. D-day 2.26.02, oc born 8.13.02.

H has had no contact with oc. He feels that it is better for us, our 3 children, ow, oc, ow other 2 children from her first marriage.

We are doing great, and have worked out problems that led to A. We are closer than were before. have not told anyone of A or oc.

ow is engaged to a man who could "possibly" be father. ( she originally said 100% sure H was father). She is also now pregnant with this mans child.

H name is on bc of oc. Other man wants oc to have his last name & possibly adopt, but she wants to see "if marriage lasts". I guess she wants her cake and eat it too!

We have paid no cs, but told her would pay if dna proved he is father. Court is just now getting around to tests.

We (ow included) are frustrated that health dept made appointment for dna for H and oc at the same time this friday. H has not seen oc, and is afraid that if he does, that he will want relationship with her. OW is afraid that he will see her and want her. I'm to call tomorrow to see if his appointment can be changed. If it can't, DO YOU ALL think that I should go with him. I really don't want him to see either of them, but I also think he may need my support if he does see the child. I will have to ask off from work and will be awkward situation, but am willing to do it for H.

Please pray for us. We want what is best for child and will pay cs is he is father, but would be very happy if other man is father.

butterflybonanza

There is no scientific reason your H has to be there with OC. My DH and OC did not even go to the same clinic in the same WEEK, nevermind the same minutes. I would fight the clinic on this one before I'd embarrass myself at work.

Good luck, bb, I hope you're one of the get-out-of-jail-freers!
J

We did ours thru the mail, my H found a place on the internet that sent the kits. H and OW live in different states...
don't know if that helped but thought it may intrest you.
NGU

ButterflyB,
There is no reason to be scheduled together for test.

Change the time your H goes.

My H tested in the morning and ow/oc in the afternoon.

Now go make the call together to change the time your H goes.

Bless you while you both wait for results.

love
Debi

called today and was told dna specialist comes to local health dept. from out of town. H is going to go in at 8:00 hoping to get tests done before ow & oc get there.

Our son has dr appointment at 8:30 and i have to go with him. its in another town 30 miles away from town where tests are being done and will take at least 2 hours at the dr office.

pray for us
thanks for your posts

I will be thinking of you tomorrow...prayers being sent your way!
NGU