Just wanted to tell y'all hi. Sorry to report negative stuff, but it is what it is. I simply don't trust my WW and time is only forging that anti-trust feeling stronger. I look back at what we could've had and I get sick in the guts. Why could I not have realized my TRUE PRIORITIES and acted accordingly BEFORE I pissed away my dream? I have learned so much about women and love through this debaucle that I think my next go round will be quite different and the picture (fantasy) I carry in my chicken head will eventually be realized. The only sad difference is the greying, long haired old woman who is holding my hand on that beach won't be the one I had originally pictured. Hopefully there will be a few crazy grandkids playing in the surf too. But that may be a little too greedy and God has that in His realm, not mine, where it belongs.

I am writing this with true feelings of empathy and deep in my heart type of simpathy for any and all of you who's dreams, desires and even self confidence have been literally SHATTERED by this dubiously evil green backed monster of the darkness we all call adultry.

I look at the gorgeous gift God had placed in my care and scream to Him now in pittiful diseased regret. There are days when the pain of knowing what I destroyed is terrifying and debilitating.

1. GOD
2. SPOUSE
3. FAMILY
4. SELF

If you have different priorities then those above, I beg you to re-read the paragraph immediately prior and maybe you can save yourself from going through that by making a simple "adjustment" in what motivates you.

If you know what your priorities "should" be and are deliberately disregarding them for your current pleasure, the consequences of your actions will come and come like a slow moving fog that engulfs your entire being and tortures your essence until you have been left to rot in a disgraceful, cancerous, immoral swill of despicable cruelty and unending regret.

The monster of Adultery is so misunderstood and very secretive, deceptive and shrouded in a falsehood of "ecstasy" and "satisfaction". He hides his consequences with all his might like a slow moving crocodile immediately before he strikes his pray with a ferrocious lack of morallity that leaves victims scatterred behind that the original 2 offenders had no idea would be hurt. And, if you truly think about his attributes, I think that is exactly how this monster wants it...... secret, hidden, in the dark.

Shine your light all who wish to stay free from this monster.

peace
tim

Dear Tim,

I am sorry that it has come to this. On the other hand, you sound less angry and more accepting of whatever responsibility you bear in the breakdown of this marriage. You bear no blame for her affair but do own some part of the broken marriage just before the affair.

I hope you get all you wish for--someone to share you life with. Make sure you look for her in the right places. My sister keeps winding up with drunks and wonders why. Well....she meets them in bars while she is drunk. I guess I am saying is put yourself in good places to meet good compatible people.

I wish peace and God's healing for both you and Patty(?).

MJ

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by hbby/tuff_decision:
<strong>...He hides his consequences with all his might like a slow moving crocodile immediately before he strikes his pray with a ferrocious lack of morallity that leaves victims scatterred behind that the original 2 offenders had no idea would be hurt. And, if you truly think about his attributes, I think that is exactly how this monster wants it...... secret, hidden, in the dark...
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hi tim,
I agree with your encouragement to rearrange our priorities and keep our spouses right up there second only to God.

Thanks for reminding us to consider consequences of our actions. Sometimes we can be so selfish and focused on what we want that we don't think of consequences.

When temptation rears its ugly head, it only presents instant gratification, not the destruction lurking behind its facade.

I'M NOT SURE WHERE TO BEGIN. I FOUND OUT 3-WEEKS AGO MY HUSBAND HAD AN AFFAIR,AND HAS BABY THAT IS 8-MONTHS OLD. WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER 11 YEARS, AND HE NEVER WANTED CHILDREN. I WANTED TO RUN AWAY FROM THIS MARRIAGE, BUT I STILL DEEPLY LOVE MY HUSBAND. I JUST NEED SOMEONE TO TALK WITH WHO HAS BEEN THROUGH THIS. I DON'T KNOW HOW I CAN SEE THIS BABY HE MADE WITH SOMEONE ELSE. HE DOES WANT TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH THE BABY, BUT IS WAITING FOR ME TO FEEL BETTER. PLEASE HELP ME.