I think it's been a month or more since I've been here on the board. Since we hadn't heard from xOW in a year and the alleged due date had passed by a few months before with no word, I decided to put it all behind me. As much as I wanted to offer support to others, coming to the boards just kept everything to fresh in my mind.

Things had been going great and then last night (my h's birthday, coincidentally) we got a phone call. A man who claimed to be her fiancee called and said that she wanted my H to know that she had had a baby girl. My H hung up on him. I tried to trace the #, but it wasn't available.

So, I'm back. I hardly slept last night and when I did, I had bad dreams. My H said he's not even going to think about it until he is contacted by an attorney.

I wish it were that easy for me. I convinced my H to call DSS and see if a claim had been filed against him. They said no. I e-mailed a PI this morning to see if they could help us find out the truth, but they haven't gotten back to me yet.

What do I do? I feel myself starting to slip back into the dark. I don't want to be in that place again.

Steph, I re-read your post.
Have things changed? Have you heard anything more about the OW? I have no experience on how to deal with this. Other than how you have.
don't let the situation get to you. Focus on your marriage and your lives together. Currently she is out of your lives, and if your lucky the pg was non existant. There have been a couple of oldtimers whose OW turned out to be liars. There was no pregnancy or the child was not the husband's child.
Again just concentrate on what is important, you and your marriage.
will keep a better eye out for you after this.
I know that all alone feeling.
Texasgirl

We haven't heard anything else, but that might be b/c we got our # changed <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

My h called the dss office and they said that there have been no cs claims filed against him at this time. I decided to hire a pi and my h was ok with that until I told him how much it was going to cost.

I just need to know! If there is a baby, then we'll just have to wait for her to make the next move. If there isn't, I'll be hooping and hollering so loud you'll be able to hear me all the way in Texas!

If she files you will need a lawyer anyway, so why not hire one now, and have them send her a letter about the situation, figure what you would owe for child support, let the lawyer send her a letter in legalese.
This way you protect yourself, now. You do not want to have to pay back support. From what have seen and heard that can be major whammy.
Also, if she is playing head games, then she will get the idea that you are not going to be a victim anymore.
I am so much for being proactive, and not reactive. When I learned my husband had a 4mo old child from his affair, I asked him about the child support. He had been paying it, but had noting in writing. I had to make him see a lawyer and follow thru. Also this way she realised he was not coming back to her. It also set up visitation just in case he wanted to see his dau.
Just my suggestion. But I would recommend a lawyer over a PI. He even might have one you could use, and who knows might have a case to sue her for somthing.
Just saw last night a woman had sued her husband's lover/now wife for alienation of affections. She won in lower courts, but appeals said shouldn't enforce old laws. I think if I were that wife would take it to next level. I thought if laws on books, then they had to be enforced.
just my thoughts.
Would love to hear that '"WHOOP" clear to Texas.

TExasgirl.