WS had ONS w/ a woman he asked me to take to work. She was bar trash that is why I did not want to take her but I obeyed my WS. As a good Christian I even attempted to befriend her and got burnt. The OC was born exact on the calendar to the ONS and looks like WS and WS's 1st kid he pays CS to. OW said she wants nothing but is now telling people he is dad and visits WS's father and step mom.

WS 1. Says he is not definite it is his 2. Doesn't want test cause can't afford another 25% going out and hopes a new DAD will want to adopt the kid someday and want to be in OC's life.

What does OW want? Also, I can't respect him for not taking care of his responsibility wouldn't it be the right thing to do to find out, pay the money, and even not visit if he doesn't want a relationship.

I will have no peace until I know whether OC is his or not, and if so until he is supporting it financially. Maybe then I could gain some respect for my WS. Am, I wrong.

(He is working pretty hard on our relationship but I can't move on waiting for the state to hit him upside the head and reality to set in his brain.)

DDAY 12/02
OC born 8/02
Married 6yrs
CS to son born 96
Our son born 98
WS 30
FW 31 and pregnant