In the interest of building more love deposits in our love banks, I'm curious....what attracted you to your spouse? What are some of the favorite things that you did together?

I have found in re-evaluating my EN's I have a strong need for conversation and also recreational companionship (or however it's called....can't think w/o my usual one million diet cokes in the morning...)

I met Mr."T" in high school. He sat across from me in science class. His family moved up to the NorthEast when his dad transferred jobs and I thought his southern accent was "cute"...

He tried to be cute and instead of asking outright for my phone number, he asked everyone at the table for their phone numbers "just in case he needed it for homework"...I saw through it and wrote next to my number, "If you wanted it, all you had to do was ask!"

We were inseparable all through high school. We broke up when he started a job at a bar washing dishes....soon his job was more important than me and I had to break up with him....

(now his stupid police job keeps him from me, but I knew that when I married him! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> )

I think some of our best times are on the phone...at one time I would have said that our whole marriage was based on the phone...that if we sat in the same room, give us telephones and we'd talk just fine...or go on long drives and talk...those are the best times.

I want to think and remember on those times. It helps me remember the man that I loved and although I'll never understand the WHY of it...Why he did what he did with the ex-ow...I want to still beleive that I'm the "love of his life"...

It's weird but some of the most favorite things we like to do together is to go to a bookstore and browse and then sit and have coffee and talk...we like to window shop....

We're trying...
I'm interested in hearing about what your favorite dates are with your spouses!

Hugs,
twiisty

Hey twiisty,
Great post! I'm sure you are the love of Mr.twiisty's life and that's why he's still with you!

Isn't "Mr.twiisty" the name of a character in the Veggie Tales Jonah movie?! (I THINK SO???)

Anyway, I think my favorite "dates" with my hubby are the ones where we all go out together and do stuff with the kids. I guess I have a big EN for Family Commitment so when we all go to breakfast or go to the park or go for walks, those activities REALLY fill my love bank. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

What attracted me to him in the first place was his love for God and his commitment to be right with God. He makes me want to be a better person. He has brought more accountability into my personal life and relationship with God so that's a biggie.

He was not intimidated by my past either--that really helped me to love him.

BTDT wrote:
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Isn't "Mr.twiisty" the name of a character in the Veggie Tales Jonah movie?! (I THINK SO???) </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It's funny that you should mention that...I think Tigger called my attention to that too...I had to laugh and to this day, I joke with Mr."T" that he better not have any new businesses spring up without my knowing it!!!!

It would be funny though, wouldn't it? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
Hugs to you,
Twiisty
NOT the co-owner,founder, whatever of Mr. Twisty's pretzels and confections company...*sigh*

cheese curls! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

^^bump^^

It's time for more productive conversation around here, yes?

Don't forget the Root Beer**in a Mr. Lunt accent, sorta hispanic for those of you not familuar w/Veggie Tales** <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

What attracted me to Sailorman? Well, it's been SO long ago, that I'm just not sure exactly! I do know that he was this tall, lean, dark hair, green eyes and just something about his smile! The craziest thing is that my brother and, at that time, girlfriend(now sil) kept trying to get us to meet! We were both in the Ensemble Choir at school, but that year there weren't enough in the class to actually have it as a class for school. We met at lunch and then twice a month after school w/the whole group. Well, Sailorman and I were on different lunch schedules, so hadn't met yet. It was the second after school practice(I had missed the first due to a dr. appt) and my sil and I were late. We were running up the hallway when this girl runs out of the choir room. When we get to the door, Sailorman is running out, after the aforementioned girl. Sil stops him and introduces us. I kinda laugh and say "Hi", then turn back to the doorway. Well, later, I find out that Sailorman was chasing his then girlfriend. She was pissed at something, and he was trying to talk to her. It must not have been that important, cause he watched sil and me walk into the classroom! He claims he's always liked my a$$ <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> !!!! Even through all the garbage we've put eachother through, from dating to present, I still love him as much as I did back then!

I missed him terribly this past week, and was SO happy to have him home! And, Abbi and I have him all to ourselves till Friday!

He just has a big heart, and is gorgeous to top it off! He's been there for me through all the trying times, and stuck by me! That's not something everyone who's been in my situations can say about their guy! I can't complain! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

OK, enough bragging about Sailorman. Let's hear some more!

Love,

Tigger

What attracted me to Doc? Hmmmm....he's a dork...
Whats amazing to me is that what attracted me to him are some of the things I don't care for now...such as him being a KISA, these days he fulfills that roll with just me and the office ladies have had to find another..thank goodness he realized this

Our favorite things to do are pretty simple..like front porch sitting...guess we're boring these days and that suits me just fine!!!!!!!!!!

Peace!

Bipolar says when he met me he was so "struck", he couldn't get me out of his mind. When I spoke to him in the hall and he became tongue tied and flushed, doing the Cliff Clavin thing, I found him charming and adorable. I was puzzled how someone who seemed so self assured, sophisticated, witty and hunky would be so uncomfortable around me.

He said when I touched his arm, he felt little zaps of electrical currrents run through him. I was very flattered at his obvious attraction to me. He went back to his home state and immediately began writing me letters...the kind of letters that makes one blush. The weren't dirty or even suggestive, but there was an underlying intensity that made me rush to the mailbox every day. The things he said were said in such a poetic way with such humor. I think we fell in love via Pony Express.

All the years we have been married, we have spent nearly every minute together, building our family, our business, our lives, planning our future and enjoying each others' company. He thinks I am hilariously funny but I am really his straight man. He's the funny one, the Irish story teller. We have the same tastes in many things but have come to appreciate each others' differences. He is always interested in me, my family and friends. He tells me every day that I am beautiful and I make him crazy with desire.

We got it all back, only better. Before, as good as it was, there was some holding back on both our parts. As close as we were, we would both be afraid to reveal ourselves completely at times. Now, after recovering, there is no fear of each other. There is no holding back. There is no fear of rejection. Whatever we had before, and no matter how incredible it was before the trouble, it is nothing compared to what we have today. There is trust, compassion and respect. It seems so ironic that I trust him more today than I did before the trouble. I guess going through something like this and surviving it changes people in ways that one would never expect.

We have a great time together. We go for short trips, we go for long rides. On rainy weekends, we will get Chinese food and sit in front of the TV watching movies. We work on the house together and our idea of a great afternoon is two hours at Home Depot. We get together with our kids and our friends and our life is so normal now except for the CS issues we are still struggling with. We are blessed.

Cat

What attracts me to my spouse???

The fact that we feel very comfortable with each other and did so almost from the beginning.

The things we have in common: no children, college educated, enjoys dogs, great cooks, quietness,
not being spoiled....etc.

The Spanish accent - she is from Mexico.

We wrote letters, sent e-mails and talked on the phone very often for over a year.

She is a great housekeeper and a hard worker.

She enjoys her job and earning her own money.

She is a very good money manager.

She helps me do all of the yard work and maintain our two vehicles.

Did I mention a great cook - homemade tamales, tacos, enchaladas....etc.

She is extremely good-looking and sexy.

She is not stubborn and willing to learn many things.

I consider myself a lucky person to have such a wonderful wife. Any single guy or girl in search of a good husband of wife should consider a trip to Mexico in search of their spouse. For the most part, the Mexican people are loyal, very hard workers, faithful and dependable.

That's easy...His great butt, of course! I was 20 afterall. Twenty one yrs. later, and he still has a great butt! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I just commented on that to him the other day, and told him I'm jealous. I've always been skinny inny, (when not P), but no matter how faithful I am at the gym, and how many glute reps I do, my butt is not/nor ever will be tight like his...not fair!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

On the more serious side, after first impressions, what really attracted me to him was the fact that he had a wonderful balance of macho man/sensitive man qualities. Guys I dated before him seemed to either be too macho, or total wimps.

Twiisty, he was kinda like Mr. T, in that he was kinda shy at first. He brought puppy pics to work of his then 6 yr. old family dog. While I was melting, looking at the pics, he asked for my phone number.

The morning after our first date, my older brother who was living at home that summer, asked me, "so, you think you'd go on a 2nd date w/ him if he asks?" When I said yes, my bro said to me and my parents, tongue in cheek, "Welllllll...let's start planning the wedding!" At the time I was on a streak of not going on 2nd dates with anyone.

The baseball team in our city was making a play off run that year and ended up going to the world series, we managed to get tics to quite a few games that late summer and fall. It was great, we both had and still have a common love for sports. That team has pretty much sucked ever since, no problems though, because we prefer football and basketball anyway! Still, everytime we go to a baseball game, it brings back many happy memories, ie. him shelling my peanuts for me. I remember his best friend giving him a hard time about things like that, because his g/f would constantly point out what a sweetie my b/f was.

These days, our favorite dates are breakfast out nearly every Saturday morning (we leave the house long before our teens wake). We talk about the past week's happenings, and what is to come in the upcoming week. We talk about all sorts of things really, and that is what I enjoy. Work stresses seem to be off his mind, and he really relaxes and opens up. We then usually go to our favorite home store, and pick up things for his latest project. A lot of times we also hit an antique shop or two, another common love we share.

Sunday's during the f.ball season are a lot of fun. We rush home from church, he builds a fire, I get snacks together and we park ourselves in front of the tv. The kids usually don't have friends over during the game, as they get embarrassed because we can get pretty loud and are known to throw pillows at the tv. when our team is stinkin' up the joint. We have great fun though! BTW, when kid's friends have been over, they have said, "don't worry, my dad is probably doing the same thing right now".

For years he has begged me to go on hunting trips with him, (even though he has plenty of huntin' buddies), especially duck hunting to further northern states. I always thought he wanted me along, solely for the extra "limit", but since we have been recovering, and doing the MB principles, I have learned what a huge need recreational companionship is for him. After 20 years, I have finally told him I would like to go duck hunting. You should have seen his face...it was like a kid's on Christmas morning. He went on and on about how I will love the beauty and serenity of the state he goes to. That he will ply me w/ all my favorite foods, non-stop fresh coffee, and make sure I am comfortable, (I hate the cold and wet weather that ducks love). So, if not this autumn because of a newborn, then next year I will be donning a new pair of fancy schwancy waders!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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