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Hello,
I just read on another post that often times the child(ren) of adulter's become adulter's themselves?????? I know this is way way to early for me to even think about (children are 5 & 8)... BUT I don't want that for my children! This bothers me..........
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Not to worry. If your kids decide to go down the wrong path toward danger, there is nothing you can do to stop them! All you can ever do for your kids that is really effective is pray, pray, pray! Teach them the values and show them by your lifestyle and that's the best you can do. All of us have free will and although it hurts when our kids choose the wrong path, it's their choice and out of our control. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> (unfortunately) Worrying won't do anything but take years off of your ability to enjoy your life and your family. ENJOY them! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> They grow up fast enough!
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Thank you for your resopnse. You are right. There is nothing I can do but guide them the best I can and be there when they need me! I'll put this worry out of my mind.
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makingitwork: in my own extended family, I have two really lovely cousins married to horrible philandering men. They ended up having children with these guys. The kids are now adults (in their 40's) and NONE of them have turned out like their fathers. I think one of the reasons was that these kids had very,very involved grandparents and uncles that had more influence on the kids than the lousey fathers did. In my own case, my kids have seen the chaos their father has lived for the past 12 years....two subsequent marriages, one of the women a complete psychopath. I hope and pray they see what comes of infidelity (and I mention it to them sometimes also). <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Take care.
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mit,,,,,, i hope that this is not the case or i'm going to have alot of heartache within our family. i too feel that if i am honest with my kids as they get older and explain to them all the pain and anquish caused by these actions they will see clear of the pitfall. also if i set a good example of not cheating on my w what's to say that i won't be their role model instead. maybe they will learn honesty, compassion, truth and fidelity instead of all the negatives.
i will tell you that fh fell into the same trap that her mother and grandfather did. her grndfthr ended up divorcing, marrying ow and after her death remarrting his original w. her mom and dad ended divorced and although he remarried, both lived unhappily (imo) until her mom passed away.
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Thank you so much for your responses. Sometimes I feel like you are the only ones who I can talk to because you are going through some of the same things and can imagine what I am going through.
I will set the best example I can to my children and oc. I want them to see love-unconditional love, forgiveness and happiness. Thank you Thank you for being here.
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