I dont think this site offers any thing for me or my marriage, any more, so yes catnip I am really leaving <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> , however I wont be reading either. those who have my email I will still answer you.

I would like to say since I am a ws, and a bs, I know there are many ways of working these things out, and while the way we do things may seem odd or out of the ordinary, it does and has worked and frankly listening to the horror stories every one says they are living, I guess the four of us[Me H, OM HIS WIFE] are not doing so bad. we dont deal with any of this drama , not to this degree any way. Om and I do communicate and we do work out problems from time to time, but I believe it benefits us and our children to do so.

This is working for us, and we dont fight over money, or make public scenes, or have harrassing phone calls, we invite each other into our homes, we speak on the phone, share pictures, our children are healthy happy and very successful in what they set out to do, I really dont have any complaints, My husband is more attentive and loving than he had been in years. He loves my d as much as the other children, om and his wife love my daughter, I really shouldnt be complaining, so I will let all you wonderful ladies vent in peace, no more commentary or 2 cents from me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
I think I have recieved all I can from here, I just dont relate I guess. It really is time to move on and I think for alot of us, on both sides, something is said that enrages us, but it isnt really worth the grief, because for most I think that is what it has turned to. My attention needs to get back to more important things, You know that brood <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> , , after all school will start soon, and I have three teens, need I say more. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

SO I wish you all good luck, yes betrayed spouses , waywards spouses, or better yet, just the people who post here, after all we are all just people.

M05,

I wish you all the best. I think that you have often contributed a different and interesting viewpoint to this board.

MJ

I don't know about your decision to leave the boards mom of five, afterall they do have an addictive quality to them. Like stunned_dad's sig says 'Welcome to the hotel Marriage Builders...you can check out any time you want but you can NEVER leave' <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> . But be that as it may, I do wish you and your loved ones all the best life has to offer.

Momof5,

I am sorry to see you go. Your solutions to these issues has always been a marvel to me. I think you and your H should be very proud of how you all have handled these very hard issues.

I think the board will be the less for your departure, but I wish you all the best.

God Bless,

JL

MO5,
Your story has given me more hope than any other. I, too, believe that if the adults can be adults these kind of things can be worked out for the better of all concerned. It's kind of like when my ex-WS and I got married. We each had children from previous marriages. In our ceremony we talked about how coming together as a "step" family does not have to undermine or take the place of the parents and families from the first marriages. That, rather, it can add to the circle of those who love and care about our children. Now, I realize that not all people want or can handle a relationship incorporting all involved parties. But, you were the first person I saw on this forum that evened talked about making this work. I had thought about it before, but thought maybe there was something very wrong with me to even consider it. We are all humans. We all want to love and be loved. We approach that goal often from places of deep emotional wounding. I hate what happened, but I would hate it more if I allowed it to determine the values I hold about the human condition. I am not sure how things will turn out for my ex-WS and "our" OC. But thank you so much for providing an example of love in its "purist" form!! I will miss you.

I agree your story is truly amazing. Good luck with your special needs child and OC and all the rest of your family.

If your marriage could survive "the three A's" (affairs, addiction, abuse) then what the heck do you need MB for anyways??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Have a nice life mo5! Sounds like you are already...

Momof5

I am sorry if anything I have written lately has personally offended you. That was never my intention.

I only wish that my marriage had survived, and we could have had a civil relationship between the three adults involved. For that I envy you. But 2 OC and an unwilling Ow who did not want a co-parent situation made for a impossible situation.

Take care of that "brood".

Tina

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