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#822211 07/27/03 01:55 PM
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Okay Everyone,

First of all,Thank you so much for following my posts and helping me through this very tough time (again, seems like I have quite a few of these all based around the A) But life goes on...

Today, the ow brought oc to our house for the first time to meet his sisters and see where his Daddy lives. I debated whether or not to even come to the door, I had not seen ow for at least a year. But on the advice of a dear friend I should go ahead and get a very hard thing to do out of the way the first time! On my visits to oc I stayed in the car when we picked up and dropped off.

I had a few tears before she arrived as knots filled my stomach. It was tough to see her and while trying to be loving and inviting to oc all the flashbacks of d-day and there after were rolling through my head like a movie! My MIL who was here, at my request, for support, told me I was very calm, warm and classy about the whole thing. I had no idea because it was like I was numb and going through the motions. Our girls accepted him with open arms and there was almost no awkwardness on their part. We had a day of playing at home, eating together and just getting to know oc. They were all sad when he had to leave asking when he would be back.
Anyway, that hurdle is over and now all I face are the outsiders and relatives such as aunts, uncles, cousins, teachers,neighbors (who of all days came over as oc was getting out of car yelling "Daddy"!) friends/aquaintences. Any more advice on how to deal with questions from these people would be appreciated. I feel like I know what I would say, but hearing from you helps too!
Thank you, my friends for being here to listen.

#822212 07/27/03 05:15 PM
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I think the situation would speak for itself.

Otherwise, I would just say, "My H will explain. He is the one to ask."

Another one of my favorites is, "Why do you want to know?"

People are amazing.

Wishing you well.

ember

#822213 07/27/03 07:19 PM
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Gosh,
I guess you could say, "this is my stepson, so and so?"

And just let them figure it out! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />


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