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Megacheeka, how did you deal with things before h daughter was born? Did you know then? It's only been 2 days since my original post and I already am changing my mind about what I want. H told our pastor that he only confessed to make his relationship right with God. It had nothing to do with me. He's still not sure he wants to save M. For the last 3 years it has been ME holding us together (in vain-really-I know now). Can I continue to do it now with more "characters" in the play? Yesterday's emotion was anger, today is: I WILL not live like this. H says "we'll talk." Am I preenting his brokenness and true repentance by "enabling" him? By my co-dependency? All the while meeting all his needs?
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BHI,
I would recommend looking in to Plan A/B. Both are designed to save what love you do have for your H, while trying to repair your M. It sounds as if you may end up needing to go in to Plan B if your H is not showing that he wants to repair your M. You need to work on YOUR side of things, if you want to save your love for your H. You can't change how he feels, but you can show him how you feel, and what you're willing to do to save those feelings.
I don't know if any of this helped, but it's what I would do.
Tigger
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