D-day was just 7/20/03. OC due 10/31/03. H not sure he's ready to commit to "whatever it takes" and still unforgiving from past 3 years of marital UNbliss. I am ready, willing, and with the Lord's help, ABLE, to do whatever it takes and have forgiven him for this one night stand and it's consequence due in October. I even said I'd raise OC with him since OW doesn't want to and can't. Here's my delimma. HE WON'T COMMIT. I can't do anything without that. He shows me biblically where I can go if I want to, yet, I show him biblically where God hates divorce. We are in a pit, financially, spiritually, physically, every way possible and he wants to sign papers to rent a house for twice as much rent as we are paying now. We are to meet with the realtor again tomorrow. When we first met with her, he was sorry, yet still not repentant.(only 1 week after d-day) Now, he says I'm the blame. He can't take it seeing me with sad looks, being quiet at times, etc. Duh! What does he expect? I am not ready to sign a 5 year lease and commit to him, (and his son-to-be) if he can't committ to our marriage. Can't even look me in the face and tell me he'll TRY. We're to meet realtor in the morning. What do I do? Any advice?

Hi!
Do you have any children together? I say if you don't, pack your bags and run!!!If he can not commit than you should find someone that can!!!