<small>[ September 25, 2003, 06:36 PM: Message edited by: fuzz21498 ]</small>

Dear fuzz, I am so sorry for what you are going thru. I have 3 children, 25 yr son, 21 yr daughter and an 18yr old son. My H. has had two major affairs and on this second one the OW is pregnant. He is living with her. My older two C. are very angry with my H. and won't talk to him. I understand what you are going thru. It is hard to see your father doing things to hurt your mother and try to justify or make it less than it is. My H. also does the same and wants everyone to treat him the same or at least welcome him into our plans but still be able to go back to the OW. Maybe your mother should come to this site, she would get support and even just reading about others helps. Sometime it gets depressing but it gives a lot of insight as to how others are dealing with this. I have been married 25 yrs and it is hard to give up and get adivore, I have tried everything and he still sits on the fence. But pretty soon I won't be seeing him either and then all contact with his children will end. Unless he changes. My daughter has also said that I could live with her and if I had to I would, but she lives in another state and I wouldn't leave my younger son either. It must be comforting for your mother to have you to lean on and that you will help her out. Take care, and don't worry if there aren't many responses, this is a slow board and it's a weekend also. Take care, DBD

Thank you for telling us how you feel its nice to hear from other family member on how the A effected them.

I have 2 boys 19 and 21 years of age and they have lost all respect for their father. It is so sad to see them try to maintain a relationship with him when its not in their heart. I hope in time things will get easier for them.

They do see the pain their father has done to me and it gets them very anger. They keep saying how could he do this to our family. They also feel he betrayed them because he lied for 3 years. They feel like they don't know him. He is a stranger.

Their father realizes what he has done but "What can I do, I can't fix it". So he dedicates all his time with his oc who is 2 yrs 5 mths because she loves unconditional and doesn't look at him with disgust. We get it but what a price he has payed for his choices.

He lost his home, his chidrens respect and a wife of 23 years. All for sex! Very high price to pay.

Hang in there and know you have a lot of people who care here.

Thanks for sharing your story!

LJ