I have had the most wild couple weeks. My house flooded; I ended up in the hospital for several days and had surgery for kidney stones; found out that hubby's deployment should end in a few weeks; got a call from one of his gf who was very nice and embarrassed but gave me details that proved to me that she had indeed been intimate with my hubby quite a bit in the past few months, and unfortunately told me about a few other gf that she had discovered (one is pg but let's pray it is not his), AND I got some of the neatest but BLATANT instruction from God.

I have not confronted my husband about this. I believe it will come out and have no clue as to what I will say, but I have not brought it up. And so far I believe that that is what God has told me to do. He has also pointed out to me that regardless of what I have suspected for so long that I have been very disrespectful and mothering to my husband and that I have put my marriage before Him. Regardless of what my husband has done, I know that my actions were wrong and I am striving to correct that. I am reminded of that verse that says something like "You have removed my friend and lover from me". I know that God didn't make my husband do this, but if He allowed it so as to get my attention well lemme tell you it worked. I have never felt closer to my God. My Bible says to submit to my husband to show honor to God. Now don't worry, I don't plan to be a doormat, but I do plan to listen to the scriptures and get my guidance there. He has plans that I cannot see. My faith is stronger than ever and my pain is pretty high too. I thank you all for your support. I will keep you updated.

Oh, I forgot (and am editing to say) that the kids and the baby boy on the way are doing good!!

<small>[ August 21, 2003, 12:42 PM: Message edited by: aimee2 ]</small>

aimee2 this is a horrible discovery for you to bear.

The flood and hospital stay must have been a tremendous upheaval in your young life.

Sweetie you must not let yourself take the blame for what your selfish H has done to you yet again.

You must depend on God to help bring you above this mess and I feel it will take a long time.

You are responsible for yourself first and your new baby to come. He will need you as your H may not be there for any of you.

If it's in your heart and you can manage legally, take the oc's with you.... Your H must begin to do his part and not go around making babies with women other than you. Then when he does he expects you to pick up the ball and "mother" him and oc's!!!

You need a husband who will be with you. God doesn't intend for us to take and take until the pain is so great we can no longer distinguish between His word and that of a selfish human being!

You need some free counseling on how to get away before his actions completely destroy whatever self confidence you have left is gone.

How about searching this site for a strong plan B letter to follow?

Doesn't mean you are letting go of the marriage just yet.

Just gives you time away to think things over and see what H's next move will be.

Whatever you decide dear aimee2 prayers are with you.

love
Debi

God bless you! I thank the Lord that I am not the only one who, when hurt by the sins of another, can use the opportunity to seek what the Lord has in it for yourself. Some just do not understand the faith that it actually requires to go to the Lord and ask Him what He has for YOU in a situation. I get ridicule, I get people who say I can't take the blame, etc. All I know is that I am responsible for 100% of my 50% of the marital relationship and if I was only giving 99% then I fell short. Does not excuse H behavior, but leaves me room for improvement. Again, God bless you. My H OC is due 10/31, I just found out 7/20 and DAILY the plans change for what's next, but my GOd does not change!

aimee2,
I have followed your situation with every post, b/c I read here almost daily, and I don't think I have ever responded to one of your posts. (Not b/c of any other reason than I just don't post too often) But your update today has caused me to come out of hiding.

First off I will admit to you that I do not share the same belief in God as you do, or should I say with the same magnitude as you do. With that being said please understand that what I write comes from my heart...

With every post you have written I have so admired your strength and perseverence. I would have crumbled a long time ago. I am amazed at the calmness and poise you show in your update, and I know that you are getting your strength from Him. For all this, I applaude you.

I have come to care deeply about you in your situation (although we all here are vitually strangers), and hope that you watch out and take care of yourself. I am angry that he is still doing this to you and when the truth comes out I trust that God will take you into His hands and guide you. Please be true to yourself Aimee, you are such an important person to so many, especially the children that you have taken under your wings. They will learn good things from you...

Hugs and God Bless
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