OK- I've moved this topic from the recovery board, in hopes of getting more insight...let's hope so!

I may be just holding on to anger, but I've got real recovery issues with this! WH got 2 OW prego, within a 1+.
To explain...we started to recon. a few months ago, but he was still seeing GF (single mom- S 5). Told me that it was complicated and that he just couldn't stop seeing her. I cornered him into admitting that she was prego and he was trying to convince her to have an abortion. She almost didn't and was trying to use a child to keep him around, even though she knew he would come back to me when/if I wanted.

This sent me into a tailspin. How could he be that irresponsible! I had suspected he had gotten another girl prego before, but he totally denied it. So, I called her! Sure enough...she had an abortion too.

We have a beautiful, smart 4yo S. I'm wrestling with feelings, of not being the only person he's created a child with. I want another child in the future, but this/these new revelations concern me. He's a completely loving devoted father, but everything seems so cheap now. I guess it could be worst...there could be 2 OC running around. I wouldn't be able to deal with that, but I don't know how to deal with this either...

Beach:
I don't really have a lot of advise for you but your story is very familar to me. I have a girlfriend who her xh got 2 women pregnant twice. Yes both were pregnant two times. The first one he was having an affair on my friend they were still married, she aborted it, then when my friend confronted him about the affair he left her.....and got the girl pregnant again....then had an affair on the girlfriend and got this second girl pregnant 2 times as well. The second girl got 2 abortion.....the first girl had the 2nd baby, but they are not together anymore he's with the second girl now. I know my friend has not gotten over it. She can't have kids and it hurt her a lot. She had told me that the bigest blow would be if he got anyone pregnant. They have two kids adopted. So I could imagine what your feeling. You can work past it though if your both serious. There is a lot of help for you on this board. Good luck

Hi Beach,

Sad, sad. First you have to deal w/ his infidelity, and then 2 abortions.

He would need to ask the Lord for forgiveness and you for those ones, to get his heart cleaned up. I feel for you having to deal w/ the pain of it all. It must be difficult for you. He will need a cleansed heart before getting anywhere with you. So....you may want to discuss that with him.

Sent with Love, Ladysheep