Can the OW save all her prenatal medical bills and then sue my H to pay for them if he is the biological father of the OC? OW told my H this and we are unsure if she can do that or not? This is the OP who is trying to gain leverage on my marriage and all her tactics are out of anger b/c my H does not want any part of her or OC (not born yet) She is going to try every trick in the book to get revenge on my H.

Let me know if she can do this or not.

Since my D-day I have read this board every day and found so much info to help my H and I get through our situation together, it really has been a life/marriage saver. I'm very sure I'll have more questions as the days go by.

There is one day I'm dreading and that is when the OC is born. How do I react, what can I do to not get upset? I think OW has approx 3 more month to go. Any advice would be very helpful to me.

Thanks again and God Bless.

Chris

I think she can. My H had to pay all the medical bills for the pregnacy. What wasn't fair is that he could have had it put on insurance and she refused. So when he was sued 9 months after the OC was born, he was forced to pay ll the bills from the pregnacy and from the time the OC was born. Please check with a lawyer on this.

Chris you must get a lawyer now to prepare for what is coming if dna proves oc is your H's.

Ow here used welfare to have baby. she is soooo rich and it makes me sick she used that source.

Anyway we negotiated to paying 1/2 of the bill. Not the whole thing!

As far as reactions when oc is born?

I was totally devastated as I guess I never thought that day would actually happen.

Everyone called when the announcement was in the paper.

Ow used her married name but did not include the usual Mr.&Mrs..... I thought she would use our name or put H's name next to hers as so many unmarried couples do today.

It's not easy.

I wish you and your H the best...

Prayers to you.

love
Debi

I don't think the OW is rich at all. I'm not sure what means she has to pay for her medical bills w/o using the Welfare system. She's a single Mom working as a waitress. That's what is confusing to me. She says she is pregnant and we don't have any proof of it. Should we ask her to provide proof of her pregnancy? She mentioned to my H that she had problems with miscarriages in the past. She also told my H that she was carrying twin and miscarried one. We haven't heard anything about bills or any real proof beside word of mouth from her that she's pregnant. The way she's playing games who's to know what is true or not. Is there a nice way to ask her for proof. Maybe a copy of her latest prenatal visit?

chris,,,,,,,, i don't mean to sound repetative but you need an attorney NOW. waiting can only bring with it a huge amount in arrearages.

if oc has been proven to be your h's thru dna testing he should have his insurance cover the med. costs if at all possible. but only if your h has been PROVEN the father.

things were in turmoil at our house during fh's pregnancy and she went thru the county for med costs. i have no idea if the county will seek reimbursment from om.

get yourself a lawyer and you will keep thoings legal and refute any attempts of her to gain any form of leverage.

Are the OW not famous for saying "it took two" and so forth? Well, it did take two, and it will take two to pay for the expenses. This is exactly why you need a laywer. AND FAST. These women go nuts and think the whole world should revolve around them and the oc. Doesn't work like that.

Get the attorney on this pronto. If she is playing games with "I'm pregnant" "I did have twins, butlost one" type garbabe, there would be proof. The laywer can force her hand here. Your husband can say he wants child on insurance, and that can force her hand.

For the sake of argument, lets say she is pregnant. It will be to your benefit to have insurance in place. That is what it is for. This is also the time, IF HE IS THE FATHER,to play the "it takes two card" Meaning he does not have to be responsible for 100% of the cost. A good attorney will see to it that she pays her 50%.

Case #2. Lets say she is not pregnant, but making this up. If she does not bring forward medical, documented proof that she is pregnant, and that it could be your H, you can sue her for harrassment. Keep copies of everything pertaining to this.

If she IS pregnant, and is not forthcoming, and it is your husbands child, an attorney can see to it that you get all info required to put child on insurance. This will also go to your favor in the future. Harrassment by OW is not uncommon. Ours was "fined" many times for her behavior before she learned to stay away from us.

Either way, you need an attorney. If she is pregnant, just remember, it took two. If the bill is for $10,000 and your Husbands insurance paid more then $5000.00, you should not have to pay one dime more, as she is 50% responsible too. It makes no difference if she is a waitress and he an surgeon. It took two. A good attorney will see that she is held responsible for her portion of the financial aspects of having a child. To many think that the father is now 100% responsible for everything. Not true. You just need an attorney.

You will survive this and your life will go on. You will be happy and your life will be fun and full of love. Just don't let your guard down and fight for your rights, as you and your husband do have them.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Devistated Chris:
<strong>I don't think the OW is rich at all. I'm not sure what means she has to pay for her medical bills w/o using the Welfare system. She's a single Mom working as a waitress. That's what is confusing to me. She says she is pregnant and we don't have any proof of it. Should we ask her to provide proof of her pregnancy? She mentioned to my H that she had problems with miscarriages in the past. She also told my H that she was carrying twin and miscarried one. We haven't heard anything about bills or any real proof beside word of mouth from her that she's pregnant. The way she's playing games who's to know what is true or not. Is there a nice way to ask her for proof. Maybe a copy of her latest prenatal visit?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm going to ask Orchid to post to you .... she's usually on GQII ... the crazy OW in her life faked pregnancy more than once!

Look for Orchid to respond.

Pep

And one more very important thing. An attorney will protect your family and your rights. If she IS pregnant, make sure no insurance goes into effect until it is proven via DNA. To many men think it is their child, get insurance, pay up only to learn the oc is not theirs. To late. As long as he was willing to pay, it is virtually impossible to change that fact, unless you can find the real father. And how many men were with that woman? How many are going to jump at the chance of being daddy?

Be very very carefull as to what you say, and do. An attorney is a must.

Hi DC,

Pepper asked me to stop by. You are already getting good support but if it helps, my 2 cents is that you need to get a lawyer as already suggested, do not engage in any communication. Keep it all via a 3rd party (lawyer) and ask for proof. If she is lying then you also need to keep good communication records of her statements (voicemail, e-mail, letters, etc.). Do not answer her calls, let them go to the voicemail.

In our case, we live in California and the OW claimed prego 3 times. 1st time was right near d/d. Ow claimed she was carrying a girl even though she was about 8 weeks. Imagine that!?!?! Knows the sex before any crediable doctor. Not only that but she accused me of causing her supposed miscarriage when I never even met her. I spoke to her on the phone and sent her a letter. Wow, didn't know I was sooo powerful.

Becareful of this type of OW. C/b very wacky. Don't know what other crazy concoction she is brewing.

You have every right to have proof. In our case, the OW sent an e-mail trying to get H to pay for her 'pre-natal' care and even said she would take $100.00 per month. Again with no proof. This was about the time I found out I was pregnant, had an ultra sound w/proof for me and then I miscarried at about 10 weeks.

So you can imagine how I was feeling. Anyways, she never followed through. The Ow was nuts enough to claim prego 3 6 weeks later..... that is how she earned the title: Rabbit to her other MB name: Pyscho Babble. So she 'affectionately' referred to here as PBR.

My point is to protect yourself legally. Make sure your finances are not where she can touch them in anyway via any type of paternity suits.

Do not believe her charges or threats. Verify them via a competent lawyer. Call a good Divorce lawyer in your area and ask for referencees.

It is sad that some people have to resort to such drama in their lives. You'd think soap operas had enough action.

L.