HI. my H and i have been married for a year, and we have a 4 year old son. recently, my H told me that not only did he have an affair, but this other woman is pregnant. she happens to also be married. we've talked and talked about this whole thing, and i'm not sure what to do or think about my H or the new baby, if it's his. (most likely) we're talking about working things out between us, but im feeling lost. any help?

<small>[ November 04, 2003, 07:14 PM: Message edited by: reazligrl ]</small>

Hi. I am sorry you are here.

I would get legal advice.

Please get a good attorney, if you stay, or not.

ember

Hi Reazligrl,

What's a nice way of typing "Join the Club" there isn't one. Sorry you also have to be here... I'm new to this board as of 6/29/03. My h also had an affair and the ow is pregnant. Devistating, isn't it? I'm still in shock!!! At least your h is talking to you about it, my h won't talk to me about anything. When I try to bring up a conversation about what his plans are with the ow/oc she ignores me or walks away.

Time is running short and I have two boys one from my h and the other from ex h. Since my h isn't talking to me about his problem, my next option is plan b. I'm filing for a legal seperation to protect my son's assets from ow/oc. My h doesn't know this but I'm hoping this will be an eye openner for him.

There is a lot of GREAT advice on this board, take as much in as possible, listen to what everyone has to say, it will truley help you in the long run. Seek a Lawyer ASAP for advice. That's all I can offer to you since I'm also new to this dilema. Take care and keep on reading...

I am in the same position. My H had an A with a co-worker for about 6 months. She is 4 1/2 months now. I have such a hard time. I really feel for you and all that has to go through this. I dont know what to do also. We are slowly working on things. Even though he hided talking to her a few times again. Cell phones can tell all sometimes, haha. But be tough. For yourself! Thats something that I need to work no, but things are going to be hard for a long time I think. I know that it will be for me! But be strong and be nosey!