My wife had been acing funny for a while and if I had found this site sooner I would have figured it out because she did everything that it say a cheater will do when trying to hide it. unfortunately now it's too late she's pregnant with married guys baby because of one stupid night of hanging in the bar which she has been doing dam near all year instead of talking to me.
She had a miscarriage in January and that's when she went into this I hate you mode. She truly regrets what has happend but says she's not ready for baby I truly do not want her to have it because of my pride and self esteem. We have agreed to try to work through with the help of MC
but she wants a baby but not by this guy so she's confused and mad at herself and so am I but after reading this my acions and the way I handled things helped lead to all this mess not condoning what she by any means I just want this nightmare to end and get back to what our marriage was about love

We hate welcoming newcomers to this site but we are glad you found us because you have come to the right place.

The Harley principles and policies will help you get through this along with your MC. I'm so glad youa re in counseling. You sound like you want to save your marriage and work on recovery.

The Harley principles are an excellent source for you and your wife to learn the steps necessary to rebuild your marriage. These principles actually work with an 80% success rate (I think that's right) and you will find an enormous amount of information here on this site and in many books available today.

There are some men on this site (K & Pops) who have been where you are now. They should be along soon to offer advice and give you some guidance in this area. Please bear in mind weekends are relatively slow on the forum so please be patient...they will come along soon.

In the meantime, don't do anything rash or make any decisions because the most important thing is for you and your wife to reclaim your marriage and begin the healing process. The life altering decisions you will have to make can wait for a time until you have had a chance to examine what you and your wife want and how you want to proceed. Start reading some books and study this site and learn together the tools that will see you through this. You are not alone...there are so many of us here that have been through what you are experiencing. I'll keep you in my prayers.

Catnip =^^=

Thank you my wife has decided to keep the baby and we'll raise it as our own I'll need all the prayer I can get to help me stay sain

This site is like a gift from god! I find that I need to come here every night now. Everyone here is so wonderfull! Im STILL waiting on our MC!!!! We have to wait until Dec. 10. Its the only place that will base it on income. Even thought WE NEED IT NOW. But I know everyone will be here for you and exploring all in this site will be so helpfull! It is for me. I hope your wife will want to do the same. Good luck and you are in my prayers!