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Why doesn't NC work both ways? He emailed me, not very nicely either and said he had no idea why I am suing him for CS but because I am, he is going to ensure that my D gets less than she deserves. I was not able to hold back (bad day yesterday) and responded..yeah, I know I should have just forwarded to my atty.

Can he really not understand why I am doing this legally? Isn't it preferable? Where is the brick wall I need to go bang my head awhile.

p.s. for those who wanted an update...had a wonderful time with the single guy I am seeing, and he is so good with the baby. I can't wait until I can get to a place where I am able to ask xMM to terminate his rights.

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Yes, NC should work both ways, but you cannot control what he does, you can only control what you do. I would continue to make all contact through your attorney, not responding directly to him, even if he initiates the direct contact, (and no matter what kind of day you're having).

Why can't you ask MM to terminate rights now? I'm guessing financial reasons.

Does MM have any clue you intend to ask for this someday?

I hope things go well w/ SG, hope you are taking it slowly though. Does he know about your A, and your baby's origin?

Take good care.
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He has no idea I plan to ask for this because I haven't really spoken to him since the baby was born. She was so sick at birth that I didn't even think that far ahead. It wasn't until later that he decided on the NC, and since then yesterday was the first time it has been broken.

SG knows all about the A, he and I have been friends for the last three years. I am going VERY slowly.

I have a better perspective today, his threat yesterday made me so angry that I wasn't thinking clearly. I can't trust anything he says anyway, so I may as well go through the atty. Anything else would be a waste of time and energy. I have come to the conclusion he just isn't ready to let go and torturing me is how he hangs on. I will not let it continue.

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Hi Twilight

Just let the attorney handle things for you... XMM is playing stoo-pid "why are you suing me for CS?" and it is kinda ridiculous, don't you think? My retort would have been "why WOULDN'T I sue for CS???" and leave it at that.

Talking to him will just get you all flipped out for nothing. You have enough to deal with when you have a baby that's been sick and in the hospital. Did you ever get your passport situated?

You are so better off without him...turn off the TV or stick to PBS.

Cat =^^=

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you're right Catnip...I am all flipped out after contact. I am going through all the how can he do this crap again. I feel like I am back at square one, and since he contacted me when SG was here...now he's running scared. I am so angry.

I did get the passport thing resolved, the judge forced him to sign the papers. Which made no sense to me because in the same breathe he ordered the DNA test??? But it's all my fault I'm suing him right.I think maybe i need to go vent elsewhere.


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