Hello!

I'm so sorry about your family. This is all new to them,too. They probably just want to protect you and hate to see you hurt. I think that it's easy to say "I would never stay w/ a man who...." until you've been there yourself. Like I said before, we haven't told our family. There's no doubt in my mind that my parents would hate him. I've seen how they treat my BIL who cheats on my sister all the time and it's not good; and he hasn't gotten anyone pregnant! We haven't told my husband's side of the family either. He's too ashamed of himself. They don't need to know anyway until we make some decisions about contact.

For me it's easy to remember that my husband is a good person. It's our problems that drove him somwhere else. I'm not making excuses for him, but I can see the path that lead him to where he is (where we are). It's unfortunate that it's taken something so terrible to get us to face our problems. Anyway, I'm rambling, but the point that I'm trying to make is that although we can see the good in our spouces, somrtimes others can't. I think it's natural for people to think we're crazy for staying around.

I hope this helps. Good luck to you and I'm sure your family will come around.

Thank you very much.
I hope my family comes around too.
And I wish you all of the the best in your situation.