Pops ,

I think Fh's worry is a normal reaction to a mother not being with her child over night the first time. Mothers tend to think no one else can do what they do with their own children, and while he may be a bio father, They do not and could not have the connection you and full house have with that child. I am not saying it wont come in time, but for now, Fh knows she is her security.

The first over nighter we had was so hard for me, it still is even after a year. She still has days she doesnt want to leave me, But I always encourage her and smile and make her feel as though its going to be a wonderful time[ then I pray it will be] It gets easier over time, and I am not any where near letting her stay two nights. But to be honest, after a day of a toddler in their house, I bet they are not ready for it either.

Something that helps me through the times is, Om and his wife, let her call any time she wants to. They have my picture in her room, and they send pictures of what she is doing during the day or night.

We communicate with each other, about what she does, says, eats, just about everything, and of course our little one is very vocal now and shares lots.

I used to make my self sick if she cried when she had to leave me, But om , on a few occasions would take her any way and call me a min down the road , and put his speaker phone on, and she would be just a talking away and happy as a clam.

Big difference in my worries... although I am one of those that will worry any way. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

I am not trying to debate, I am just one of those mothers who thinks children belong with their primary care giver at night,at least till a certain age.

Unfortunately time will come when she is gone more than I want, and yes that is the high price we will pay for what has happened. So we hope and pray we make this a wonderful transition and continue to work together for the good of the children. ALL CHILDREN

Sounds like you and full house are doing well, I am happy to hear that. The day Grace goes over night, will be hard for full house, How about doing something busy with the other kids. Something you dont always get to do when you have a baby, Like a movie or a day of shopping with out a stroller. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I stay very busy when my aby is gone. I dont give my self time to dwell on it all.

ntmo, autumn & mo5,,,, thank you for your kind words. i guess i should have said that i Wish she would handle it better. i know that it is hard on her. i remember when my oldest would come to visit for the weekend and how i felt on monday mornings after he had gone home sunday night.

we have 2 kids playing all star soccer and their tournament weekend starts next saturday. i am hoping that will help fh keep her mind off grace being away. since i am coaching the girls it will mean that she has to take our son to his games. he also has tryouts on saturday for baseball. so she should be busy running here and there during the day, but i am sure that saturday night she will be a wreck.

mo5,,,,, it is so nice to see you post and hear that things are getting easier for you. i don't think that om's w will ever allow a picture of fh in their house.

i just want to say that i miss your posts. we may have had some differences on some issues but it was your story that gave me the strength to try and make this work. when i was talking to om's w i said that i can't see us all sitting around the bar-b-q shooting the crap. her reply was "you never know". i know that will take more time for me.

i all ready know that i will be seeing om at the high school soccer games as his son and ours will most likely be on the same team.

om did the same thing when he would take grace in the beginning. a couple of minutes down the road if grace had been crying when they left he would call fh so she could hear that grace had stopped crying for herself.

Hi mo5,
long time no hear!! Hope everyone is well and doing good this new year.