I let Xmm take the kids today for his christmas with them. I guess it pissed his Xw off (They still live together).

Question is, Why is she so pissed that he's seeing the kids? I'm not interfering, not causing trouble, the only time I talk with XMM is when HE stopps by to see the kids. I sent her an apology letter earlier this year. He told me that she expected me to start trouble after that. ANd now she is also mad, maybe dissapointed that I am staying away. What is up with this?

In all honesty, the only thing that concerns me is the children. I see no need for me to butt into there life.

I guess she is just one of those women who isn't happy no matter what?

First, I want to applaud you for the apology letter, that was a very respectable thing to do.

2nd, I doubt that she is upset w/ the fact that he is visiting w/ his kids. It is probably something much bigger and more complicated than that. She is more likely upset w/ something he may have done and it is, frankly none of your business to even wonder or try and figure out.

3rd, you said that HE told you something SHE said....that was an innapropriate breach of a confidence, that should give you a hint as to why she might be upset w/ him or the situation. HE is still telling you personal information about his wife. Why would he do that? That would/could be hurtful to BS.

As a BS myself, I doubt that it has anything personal to do w/ you or your children. It much more likely has to do w/ the situation itself and the relationship between BS and MM.

It sounds like MM p/u children alone? (that he was able to share that tidbit) That could be a very painful thing for BS. Why isn't she there w/ him? Can you understand why she would be suspicious of you though, about the letter? Imagine BS POV, first you almost ruin her marriage and life and then suddenly you are sorry? It's hard.

Don't take it personal and just ignore it and don't add to it.

crazymum...

I really have no insight into why she may be upset by him having time with the children.

Did xMM tell you that she was upset? Did she tell you?

I would really consider the source if it was xMM that told you she was upset. Unless she tells you herself or you see it with your own eyes, I wouldn't be concerned with what xMM tells you.

There may still be some residual lying going on by the xMM... some people can't stop lying no matter what they do... some don't know they do it...

As long as you are only concerned with the children... and they aren't having troubles with contact... I would say ignore his statements.

Happy Holidays!!!