Hello,
My name is Nikki-26yrs old married for 3yrs to
WH-26yrs old. Like most young married couples I never thought the big A would happen to me but it did. WH cheated back in Aug - Oct 03. This has been one of the worst things that has ever happened to me. The OW lied about the whole thing until I started trouble for her at work and at home - SO. WH and OW worked 2gether. Being that she is younger and not that bright she broke and told me everything- took sometime but it worked. I exposed the A to everyone, and got the little harlet fired. WH had already been fired prior to her being dismissed. I just evened out the score.

Well after all was said and done I find myself being a WW. I've been seeing the OM since Oct 03 and can not stop, I am hooked on him. H kind of knows about it, but does not want to acknowledge it. I have also not been very smart about preventing pregnancy and could very well be PG right now and don't know who impregnated me. For those of you who have similar situations what does one do? At first seeing the OM was pay back but now it more than that. The OM is someone I grew up with. OM knows about the WH and his A. OM makes deposits in the Love Bank which makes it hard for me just to let him go. Thanks in advance for you comments good or bad.

Nikki

Nikki

If you and your husband don't have any children together, it might be wise to divorce and go with OM and raise your child together (if it is his child) and create a stable two parent home for this kid.

Since it appears neither you or your husband seem mature enough to take marriage seriously...and I don't mean that in a nasty or disparaging way at all... it just might be best to end the marriage and perhaps allow your child to be raised by a loving and stable family. Adoption is a very generous and loving thing to do if you are not ready to raise a child.

Those are my two suggestions and what I would consider doing if I were in your shoes. I feel so bad for you that you and your husband have sabotaged your life together. Perhaps you could start over again with the knowledge you have gained from this experience. None of this should be taken lightly and I hope you will seriously consider your options primarily for your child (if there is one) and for yourself.

Good luck

What do YOU want? If the answer is to rebuild your marriage, then you are going to have to end your affair. Failure to do so could very well result in your H taking the iniciative to end the marriage. Is that something you would like to find out firsthand?